We all mess up from time to time. Remember, it is not the conflict that defines a relationship. The magic is in the repair. How well do you repair? When we have made a mistake, we have usually done something …
Tag: Relationships
To My Daughter
If children are first conceived in the mind of a parent, then I dreamed you into being at around 5 years old. Holding my toy doll with knitted purple clothing and pretending to feed it a bottle. I felt you …
The Power of the Parent-Child Connection
As a parent, there are two ways to view this: With hopelessness. With the thought that you have already made too many mistakes. With hope. With the belief that the changes I make today CAN make a difference. Some questions …
Connection
How do you let your children know you love them? I ask! I ask if they feel loved. I say, “if you were to feel a little bit more loved by me today, what would happen, or what would I …
The SUBMIT Response
We can only begin to heal from the ‘submit’ response when we are out of the abusive environment that caused it. Safety is the main priority, and if we are not safe, our nervous system is not safe to relax …
10 Ways the FAWN Response Might Show up in Relationships
The Fawn response can be exhausting. We can use up a lot of energy trying to stay connected to feel safe in the relationship. Sometimes to our detriment. It can be challenging to get enough objectivity to make a rational …
Complex PTSD Explained
What you need to know about Complex PTSD. Did you know that Complex PTSD is often misdiagnosed as PTSD or Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD)? CPTSD develops when there has been neglect, abuse, severe bullying or torture. When there is exposure …
My Journey:
Hello to all of you who are new here! Thank you, thank you for being here and being on this journey of self-healing with me. Sometimes when we are the only ones in a family on the journey, finding your …
How the Flight Trauma Response Can Show Up In An Argument
When we are in conflict, it is easy to be triggered into an automatic trauma response. Why? Maybe our partner is triggering a flashback to an old situation Maybe their tone of voice feels threatening Maybe the way they gestured …
I Stay Too Long In The Wrong Relationships
Most of us have been conditioned to ignore or block out our feelings and our bodies. Part of finding our way back to health and wholeness is through reconnecting with our thoughts and feelings in a healthy way. We can …