Anxiety is usually protective. It is trying to stop us from being hurt. Feeling some anxiety at the beginning of a new relationship is quite common. When we enter a new relationship, we start to dance with vulnerability. Vulnerability requires …
Tag: Relationships
How To Be Heard When You Feel Criticised
It can be SO difficult to actually listen to your partner when you are in the middle of an argument. All too often, we block ourselves from seeing their point of view because we feel we will be agreeing with …
How Close Can I Safely Get?
We all have a subconscious distance in a relationship that we are comfortable with. If we are further away than that distance, we won’t feel comfortable, or if we are closer than that distance, we won’t feel comfortable, and we …
How to End The Cycle of Repeating Arguments
Have you found yourself in a relationship arguing about the same thing over and over with no resolution? If your answer is yes, you are not alone. Research has found that 69% of couples’ areas of disagreement are about UNRESOLVABLE …
How to Recognise a SECURE PERSON if you Have Grown Up in Chaos
This video is in response to a lot of questions I get about recognising securely attached people. First, it IS challenging to recognise secure people when you have grown up in chaos. There is no template for what secure and …
The Legacy of a Grandmother
Energy flows through lineages. The good, the bad and the ugly. It is passed down through our nervous systems, DNA and behaviours our parents learnt, and their parents learnt. How old are the scripts that I was raised with? They …
Attachment Wounds CAN Come From Adult Relationships
Attachment wounds don’t only come from your childhood, they can also be formed in adulthood. Remember that attachment wounds are relational wounds. This means that they happened in a relationship with another person. When we are hurt deeply enough for …
Male and Female Archetypes
What do you think about this idea of your mother as being the first archetypal woman and your father, the first archetypal man in your life? It makes sense that we would organise our expectations around these roles and archetypes …
Are You Stuck in Pattern Repeat?
When we are growing up, we get used to the relational distance between us and our caregivers. We chose a distance that feels safe. We do whatever we need to do to maintain the ‘safe distance’, close enough where I …