According to Psychologist Gary W. Lewandowski’s research, going through these questions and answering ‘yes’ or ‘no’ will give you some insight into the potential longevity of your relationship. The more questions you answer ‘yes’ to, the more likely it is …
Tag: Relationships
10 Things To Say Instead Of Ghosting Someone
Ghosting hurts. A poll on this Instagram account into how ghosting made people feel came up with a myriad of reasons, with the most common being ‘confused’. Ghosting leaves the person being ghosted with a lack of clarity and in …
Why We Sabotage Relationships
Knowing your attachment style might give you a lot of insight into why you sabotage relationships. In this video, I explain why you might sabotage your relationship and how you might do it as well as the push / pull …
Why Do People Ghost?
Ghosting hurts. A study conducted by Plenty of Fish (a dating site) in 2016 found that 78% of millennials aged 18-33 had been ghosted. 78%!!!!!! Imagine that you are in a relationship with someone, and suddenly you stop hearing from …
Protest Behaviours
Protest behaviours are ways of communicating. They have either been role modelled in your family of origin, or you have adapted them to stay safe in some way. For example, you might have witnessed your mother get angry about your …
Healing Old Communication Styles Where We Play Games, Push Our Partner Away And DON’T Get What We Want
Here are some situations, some old communication styles, that don’t work, and some new ways to communicate to help get your needs met. I hope you find them helpful! SITUATION – When you talk to them, they are not really …
Signs I Am Healing In My Relationships
Ram Dass says that relationships are one of the most challenging forms of yoga. When he says this, he is talking about the way you meet in an intimate relationship. You will see all of the parts of self when …
What Does A Secure, Healthy Relationship Look Like?
I have been asked a lot recently, what does a healthy relationship look like? What are the people who have secure relationships doing? They have learnt, over time, how to balance the ‘we’ and the ‘me’, to repair the inevitable …
The Dance of The Avoidant and The Securely Attached
Something I haven’t seen talked about anywhere else is the phenomenon where an avoidant will create an anxious attachment out of a normally securely attached person. Can this happen? Yes! I know because I have had this experience myself. I …
How to Build Trust
Trust is built in the small moments. We learn over time if the person we are with is trustworthy so when we face big things as a couple, there is a foundation of trust. We know our partner will tell …