It is normal to have mixed feelings about people we are in a relationship with. When we are in black and white thinking, it might be challenging to accept that we have different feelings about the same person. When we …
Tag: Relationships
The 4 Step Apology
When we need to apologise, practising alone and saying the words out loud can be SUPER helpful. We can get clear about what we are apologising for, what happened for us and how we plan to resolve it. This can …
Cycle Breakers Are Often The Black Sheep of The Family
Cycle breakers are often the black sheep of the family because they choose to focus on breaking toxic patterns internally and externally. It can be lonely, know that you are not alone and it IS worth it. You are busy …
When You Are Overly Sensitive To Your Partner’s Moods
If you grew up in an emotionally unstable environment, you would have learned to watch for any little thing that might set them off. You learn to do things perfectly to avoid being shouted at or punished. You learn to …
Childhood Trauma
This is why we end up repeating cycles in our relationships. We unconsciously repeat aspects of our childhood that remain unprocessed in our current relationship—usually the most intimate relationship, whether that is a friendship or partnership. I love to look …
The Most Beautiful Words on Earth
I think sometimes we can hear the words ‘I love you’ so often that they start to lose their true meaning. I do wonder about languages that have more nuanced words for ‘love’ if this would increase the meaningfulness in …
Real Validation
It is so easy to think we have heard our partner, when in fact we have been busy defending our position. We are often afraid that if we see things from their perspective, in a FELT way, we will not …
Being a Cycle Breaker Means Taking Responsibility For Your Healing
Healing is not a destination. It is a journey. I’m so glad you are on this journey with me. Love to all, Jen
Cycle Breaker
When you are a cycle breaker, you can’t help but see the healing that needs to happen in your family. You clearly see the repeating patterns of pain and know that you can’t live that way. You know that the …
A Beautiful Quote from Yung Pueblo
Friendship is standing side-by-side and weathering the storm.