When we have experienced neglect, abuse, invalidation, narcissism, conflict or violence as children, as adults, there is still part of us that is expecting the same behaviour from those we love. We learn that love looks and feels like conflict, …
Tag: Relationships
A Personal Post for Father’s Day
Seven years ago, my father died at 91 years old. I had the opportunity to be with him for about four weeks before he passed. As he lay in his bed, getting weaker and weaker and having a dose of …
Validation
The inner child needs to be validated. They need to have THEIR version of reality validated by you. Suppose your inner child has been told for years that she is ‘too sensitive’ to all the fighting that went on in …
Getting to Know Your Inner Child
When I first met my inner child doing an inner child meditation similar to the one in the ‘Meet your Inner Child’ short course, she was about 16, sitting on a wall, wearing knee-length leather boots, smoking a cigarette with …
Reconnection to the Inner Child
Children are naturally creative. They have to be creative to survive in the world and learn about the world. They hear a new noise and want to find out what it is, see something new, and explore its taste, feel …
Fathers and Sons
After reading the last two posts, many people have asked, “What about the men?” How do men respond to the father wound? Of course, everyone’s response to any disconnection is different, so the core thing to remember is that there …
A Powerful Quite From Steve Biddulph
When I read this, I feel for my father. My dad was 52 when I was born. He was older than my grandparents. He fought in WWII; my grandparents were too young. He came from a completely different era to …
Family Dynamics in the Workplace
Has anyone here run away from your family of origin, only to find the same dynamics being played out at work? For many people, the answer is YES!!! Why is that? In my view, this is our psyche trying to …
6 Steps to Stop Gaslighting
One of the main things to be aware of with people who use gaslighting is BOUNDARIES. When you know it is black, and they say it is white, there is no point wasting your energy arguing that it is black. …