Tag: Relationships

If your partner was betrayed in a past relationship, they may need more transparency than you think is ‘normal’. I hope that you feel proud, not burdened, by the efforts you make to help your partner feel safe. Dr Alexandra Solomon

Dr Alexandra Quote

March 12, 2024

When you have been betrayed, you have a natural scar from that experience. Many people would call that experience traumatic. It is traumatic because your person, who is supposed to have your back and be one of your best friends, …

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Things that prevent us from talking about birth trauma I have a beautiful, healthy baby. Who am I to complain? I feel shame that my body let me down, and I don't want to talk about it. Everyone has a bad time with birth - I should be over this. When I talk about my experience, people don’t know what to say, so what’s the point It was my fault because I made a wrong decision/didn't communicate well etc.

Things That Prevent Us From Talking About Birth Trauma

March 12, 2024

In research into traumatic birthing experiences, they found that “Women attribute their traumatic childbirth experience primarily to lack and/or loss of control, issues of communication, and practical/emotional support. They believe that in many cases, their trauma could have been reduced …

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How often do you truly check in with your partner? Not just about who's picking up the kids or what's for dinner, but about their hopes, fears, and dreams? Let's talk about 'The Daily Check-In.'" A Daily Check-In is a dedicated moment each day where you and your partner pause to really connect. It's about sharing more than just your schedules; it's about sharing your inner worlds." "Find a quiet time, maybe over morning coffee or right before bed. Ask each other, 'How are you really doing? What's on your mind?' Listen with empathy, without rushing to solve or judge." This isn't about fixing problems—it's about understanding each other. It's amazing how a few minutes of genuine connection can deepen your bond." Try 'The Daily Check-In' for a week. You might be surprised by how much closer you feel. Remember, it's the small moments of connection that build a strong foundation for your relationship." "Follow for more tips to strengthen your relationship

Checking In

March 12, 2024

Ask each other, ‘How are you really doing? What’s on your mind?’ Listen with empathy, without rushing to solve or judge.”  When do you do this as a couple?

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Secure attachment mastermind course

Mastermind Course

March 12, 2024

Spend 10 hours with me and change the way you relate internally FOREVER! ‘Build Secure Attachment Mastermind’ If you want more connection in your intimate relationships and to break out of the repeating cycles of distress, this is for you! …

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Let's move beyond the myth of self-sufficiency. True strength lies in our ability to lean on each other sharing our vulnerabilities and dreams. This connection doesn't confine us—it frees us. Together, we grow stronger, more independent, and authentically ourselves.

Rethinking Independence

March 12, 2024

Who else has had this experience?

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A tools for repair

A Tool For Repair

March 12, 2024

The added bonus with this is that your kids learn by example. When they see you have a re-do, they learn that they can and will make mistakes, and it really is okay because there is a way to repair …

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It's not grand gestures or strict guidelines that create a bond, but the gentle consistency of feeling truly heard and seen. Secure attachment is the warmth of understanding, the strength of validation, and the comfort of response. It's in every 'I hear you', every 'I see you', and every heartfelt reply. Each interaction is a chance to weave a tighter bond with your partner. Be mindful, be present, and cherish every moment for the beautiful opportunity it is.

Secure Attachment Grows in Small Moments

March 9, 2024

Every little look, every quiet word, every shared smile between you and your partner is a thread in the tapestry of your connection. It’s the daily, gentle moments that build a secure attachment, not just the grand declarations. In the …

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Belonging

Belonging

March 9, 2024

I grew up on a housing commission in the UK, and we were quite poor. When I was 12, I got a scholarship into a private girls school. Pretty quickly my accent changed, along with my expectations of life and …

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You don't have to be fully healed to have a fulfilling relationship. You just need a commitment to learn how to be a better person and partner - we can all grow in a relationship. At their highest expression, that’s what they are for.

You Don’t Have to be Fully Healed to Have a Fulfilling Relationship

March 9, 2024

Healing isn’t a prerequisite for love; it’s a journey you embark on together.  You don’t have to be fully healed to find or nurture a fulfilling relationship. What matters is the commitment to grow, to learn, and to evolve as …

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“Anger deadens desire” There’s just no passion any more... It is common after an unrepaired rupture, where anger lingers, that desire will vanish.

Anger Deadens Desire

March 9, 2024

Unresolved anger will deaden desire. Unresolved anger will often happen when you are in a negative cycle in your relationship.  If you would like to know more about your negative cycle, then you will love my FREE Track YOUR negative …

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