When you are anxiously attached, the dating phase of a relationship can be painful, triggering and confusing. It is often difficult to know if your gut feelings of anxiety are real and valid, or if it is your anxious attachment …
Tag: Relationships
When Consistency is Boring
I see a lot of people run when met with consistency. Why? When you are used to intimate relationships being chaotic, unstable and unpredictable, you end up living in a constant state of stress (sympathetic activation/fight or flight). This state …
Consistency In Relationships
Consistency in relationships is underrated. It is one of the most significant factors that creates real and felt safety in a relationship. We need safety to move into deeper intimacy. Inconsistency might look like: Notice how you respond to inconsistency. …
On Your Side
Of course, there are times to argue, stand your ground and debate, but when something is really important to your partner, sometimes you need to have their back.
What’s Important to Your Partner
Know what is important to your partner and make it important to you, too.I’m not talking about what kind of food they like, I’m talking about the big things, the things that your partner feels passionate about.If they feel passionate …
Marriage Tips from a Happily Married Couple (18 years) with Two Teenage Children
Which one resonates the most for you, 1-8? Let me know in the comments Love, Jen
Corrective Experiences
Whenever I make a mistake, and my husband responds with kind eyes and a soft, warm voice, he gives me a corrective experience. Let me explain. When I was born, my father was 52 years old. He was old enough …
Shape-Shifting
When we people-please, it is often the younger parts of us that are afraid of being rejected or hurt that take over.