Socrates in Plato’s Apology was credited with saying “An unexamined life is not worth living”. This is at the core of self-awareness. At this time of the year, I like to do what I call a ‘Compassionate Review’, a kind …
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How to Speak your Child’s Love Language
Children need all five love languages. As a parent you will probably find it easiest to give the ones you like to receive. This can leave the others a little lacking. I love words of affirmation and physical touch, so …
What to AVOID when Speaking Your Partner’s Love Language
You might find that the thing your partner complains most about not receiving from you, is one of their main love languages. For example, your partner might frequently complain about you being home late. They might get upset when you …
What is Your Self-Love Language?
When we give love to ourselves abundantly, it is easier to give love in all its forms to others.So, why do we struggle to show love to ourselves? Some of us were taught that it is ‘good’ to put ourselves …
How to Receive Words of Affirmation
When we have grown up receiving few affirmations from the people around us, it can be difficult to receive words of affirmation as an adult. You might find yourself feeling suspicious and wondering if you are being manipulated. This could …
An Intentional Holiday Season
It is so easy to get swept up in the spending, the drinks, the food. Have you paused to contemplate what you would like for this holiday season? Right now, take a moment and make a list of what YOU …
If Old Family Dynamics Get Triggered During the Holiday, Know You Are Not Alone And Be Kind To Yourself
A good friend of mine used to joke that he could always test how much work he had done on himself the preceding year according to how much he got triggered during the holiday season. It’s true, you can spend …
Regression into Childhood States
Our core childhood needs are: Attachment Freedom to be yourself, and to have your emotions and needs validated Appropriate limits so you learn self-control Independence, competence and self-identity Play When triggered by one of these needs not being met, you …
Why You Might Not be Getting the Support You Need
Can THIS person give me the support I need right now? If the answer is yes, great. If the answer is no, know that there can be many reasons why they cannot offer that support. Know that you deserve to …
Dark Night of the Soul
Fifteen years ago today, I married my best friend. It was, hands down, the hardest thing I have ever done. We came from different socioeconomic backgrounds, different cultures, different countries, but hardest of all, we came from different religions. We …