This is not about blaming the safer parent. This is about acknowledging a phase in the healing process where suddenly the rose-coloured glasses come off, and you see the safer parent for the human that they are. We need rose-coloured …
Tag: Parenting
Managing a Parent’s Moods
Children should be free to be just that—children. They shouldn’t carry the weight of their parent’s emotions, learning to set aside their own feelings to maintain peace. This cycle teaches them to constantly read the room, striving to be the …
Kids Managing Parent’s Mood
When children have to manage their parent’s emotions, it creates a burden for the child. Being kids, they often set aside their own feelings and needs to maintain peace. They lose some of the carefree joy of being a child. …
Personality According to Birth Order
Have you ever wondered how your siblings can be so utterly different to you? One reason can be birth order and different children in the family using different strategies to get attention and love from your parents. Psychologist Walter Toman …
Understanding Reparenting
Wherever you are in your healing journey, reparenting is part of it. When we have been raised by adults who didn’t know how to regulate their nervous system, who did not have the skills to role model healthy boundaries or …
Parenting Tips From A 10-Year-Old
This is an oldie, but a goodie. This conversation was totally unprompted, she had no idea what I was going to ask her. How amazing is it that the first thing she says is tone and softness of voice! This …
How Parents Can Boost Emotional Intelligence through Teaching Empathy
Cultivating emotional intelligence and empathy in our children has been shown to contribute to more robust relationships, added depth of love, stronger friendships, better communication and collaboration, and the ability to connect to our common humanity. A powerful practice as …
Becoming a Congruent Parent
When parents are INCONGRUENT, children learn:To doubt their version of reality.To not trust themselves and even things they see and hear.That people are not honest or safe.When parents are CONGRUENT, children learn:To trust themselves.To trust other people.How to own their …
The Effects of Drawing Children into Adult Conflicts
One of the most common examples of this is during a divorce. Both parents are vying for the emotional support of the children. They are consciously manipulating the children to align with them. This might take the form of comments …
The Emotionally Attuned Parent
It is so easy to be dismissive when we are parenting. We are too busy and distracted to stop and listen to what is needed. When we don’t attend to children, they learn they are not important, their feelings and …