Attempting to get all our needs met through one person is often a subconscious pattern. We all have the need to be loved, accepted, for play, for trust and connection. Some of these needs can only be met interpersonally, in …
Tag: inner child
It Is Possible To Grieve For Your Childhood AND Appreciate The Good Things About It At The Same Time
So many people have a childhood that needs to be grieved for. It is appropriate to grieve your childhood if: You were parentified You were bullied by a sibling There was a lot of violence There was a lot of …
Affirmations for Your Inner Child During the Election
My undergraduate degree was a BA (Hons) in Political Science. I was an idealist! I saw all of the inequality in the world and wanted to understand why it was like that, and to be a force for good. The …
Breaking The Cycle Of Parentification
When we take on adult roles, whether physically or emotionally, we lose out on part of our childhood and we can lose connection with the playful, joy filled part of ourselves. It IS possible to reconnect with this part of …
The Art Of Re-Parenting Part 10 – Creativity & Your Inner Child
Creativity and the inner child are inextricably linked. Children HAVE to be creative to learn about the world. They have to be creative in their problem solving, learning to get a spoon in their mouth, learning how to get mum’s …
The Art Of Re-Parenting Part 9 – Self-Reparenting
When we have been raised in an unhealthy environment, when we have experienced neglect, abuse, invalidation, narcissism, conflict or violence, as adults there is still part of us that is expecting the same behaviour from those we love. We learn …
The Art Of Re-Parenting Part 8
“Wholeness is not achieved by cutting off a portion of one’s being, but by integration of the contraries.” CARL JUNG As children we are complete, whole and unique. As we become socialised by our parents, we learn that parts of …
The Art Of Re-Parenting Part 7 Fun
Having fun might sound simple, but for so many of us the ability to relax and have fun was drilled out of us in childhood. If you grew up in an environment where you were in constant fight or flight, …
The Art Of Re-Parenting Part 6 Self-Care
When I talk about self-care with my clients I like to start with the basics. Are you getting enough sleep? How much is enough sleep? Everyone is different, but I do believe there is a minimum requirement for most people. …
The Art of Re-Parenting Part 5 Self-Discipline
Self-discipline is learnt. We learn it as children as we are guided to do our homework before watching the TV, we learn acceptable ways to speak to our family even when we are angry, we learn how much of the …