When we have been raised in an unhealthy environment, when we have experienced neglect, abuse, invalidation, narcissism, conflict or violence, as adults there is still part of us that is expecting the same behaviour from those we love. We learn …
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The Art Of Re-Parenting Part 8
“Wholeness is not achieved by cutting off a portion of one’s being, but by integration of the contraries.” CARL JUNG As children we are complete, whole and unique. As we become socialised by our parents, we learn that parts of …
The Art Of Re-Parenting Part 7 Fun
Having fun might sound simple, but for so many of us the ability to relax and have fun was drilled out of us in childhood. If you grew up in an environment where you were in constant fight or flight, …
The Art Of Re-Parenting Part 6 Self-Care
When I talk about self-care with my clients I like to start with the basics. Are you getting enough sleep? How much is enough sleep? Everyone is different, but I do believe there is a minimum requirement for most people. …
The Art of Re-Parenting Part 5 Self-Discipline
Self-discipline is learnt. We learn it as children as we are guided to do our homework before watching the TV, we learn acceptable ways to speak to our family even when we are angry, we learn how much of the …
The Art Of Re-Parenting – Part 4
The inner child needs to be validated. They need to have THEIR version of reality validated by you.If your inner child has been told for years that she is ‘too sensitive’ to all the fighting that went on in the …
The Art Of Re-Parenting – Part 3 Get to Know Your Inner Child
When I first met my inner child doing an inner child meditation similar to the one on my website, she was about 16, sitting on a wall, wearing knee length leather boots, smoking a cigarette with a cigarette holder. She …
The Art of Re-Parenting – Part 3
Sometimes it can feel like it is impossible to stop the negative thinking. I know. I have been there. When nothing, like nothing works. For me, it happens mostly when I am stressed or anxious about a particular topic and …
The Art of Re-Parenting – Part 2
Part of the re-parenting process is the process of shifting our self-talk. I like to imagine that every time I think something in my head, I am talking to myself and my inner child. I have a rule: If I …
Lucia Quote
Children are naturally creative. They have to be creative to survive in the world and learn about the world. They hear a new noise and want to find out what it is, they see something new and they want to …