Attempting to get all our needs met through one person is often a subconscious pattern. We all have the need to be loved, accepted, for play, for trust and connection. Some of these needs can only be met interpersonally, in relationship, but many of them can be met by self.
For example, the need to be loved. It is easy to think this need can only be met through a significant other, but is that true? How can we grow in SELF-LOVE? How do I show myself that I love myself on a daily basis? Do I talk to myself in a loving way?
If self-love is an area where you would like to see some growth, learning to work with your inner child is a game changer. If you would like a guided meditation to lead you into the healing work with your inner child, click ‘Inner Child Healing Meditation’.
The next step is to think about ALL the people in your life where there are expressions of love and where I feel loved. How can I grow the love and connection in these relationships?
If you find you have very few, then the question might be, who in my life would I like more love and connection with and how might I start to cultivate that?
Getting our needs met by ourselves and in multiple healthy relationships is also a protective factor, in that if we are getting all our needs met by one person and that person leaves our life, we feel it much more deeply. If we have many connections, and a relationship breaks down, we are well supported.
I hope this is helpful on your healing journey
Much love, Jen