Self-trust has helped me a lot when building resilience. Like being in a relationship with anyone, building trust with yourself, especially if you have a history of abandoning yourself, takes time. You have to prove to yourself, and the inner …
Tag: inner child
Reparenting
That voice is inside you. It IS you; it is the loving parent you can be to your inner child. Remember my rule: If you wouldn’t say it to a real son or daughter, don’t say it to yourself. This …
We All Want To Parent Our Children In A Way That Feels Good
I love that this community has so many parents trying their very best. And I hear a lot of self-criticism and self-doubt as we try to meet our own or society’s parenting expectations. One of the most significant changes I …
How Trauma Affects the Brain
Trauma affects the brain, especially the prefrontal cortex, amygdala and hippocampus. Ongoing trauma is associated with “lasting change in these brain areas” (Bremmer, 2006). When there is a potential threat the amygdala sends an instant message to the hippocampus, …
My Top Tip for Dating
let me know if you have already discovered that BEING YOURSELF in a relationship is the only way! This is tricky when we are used to changing who we are to receive love. When as children we have learned to …
What Do You Need Right Now?
Stop – check-in – what do you need right now? That’s your gift to yourself right now. Take care, Love, Jen
How Do We Meet Our Fear?
The first time I remember feeling fear I was about 4 years old. I was being dragged up the stairs of our home as punishment for something I don’t remember. I remember feeling numb. My whole body felt like it …
10 Tips for When You Feel “New Relationship Anxiety”
Moving into a new relationship is all about stepping into vulnerability. We often feel anxiety when we step into vulnerability because we risk being hurt. I hope these tips will be helpful for those of you experiencing new relationship anxiety. …
Our Need to Stay Connected
We need connection. There is no more potent time in our lives that we need connection than in our childhood. We need connection as children to survive. Without connection, we die. It is that simple. To stay connected as children, …
Childhood Attachment Wounding
When we have childhood attachment wounding we will unconsciously recreate that attachment pattern in our adult relationships. This means we are recreating our childhood trauma in our adult life and that’s why it’s so painful. You might find yourself feeling …