A little reminder for today. Notice just one thing you are proud of about yourself. Give yourself a metaphorical pat on the back. Hold on to it all day. You got this. Love, Jen
Tag: Healing
Ever Second Guess Your Self
Here’s a simple trick to find clarity: For example, if your best friend was burnt out, would you encourage them to take on more or to rest? This perspective works because we often show more compassion to others than to …
Unsure Where Your Boundary Should Be?
________ You deserve the same care you would give others. Try it next time you’re stuck. Love, Jen
You Are The Gift
A little gift to share on Christmas Day. As Christmas day can come with many expectations and disappointments, you might like to take time to take care of your younger parts before, during and after the festivities. I hope your …
EMDR and Trauma
Have you had a big traumatic thing happen, and you seem to move through it well, and then something small happens, and it seems to get stuck? A few things could be going on: Has anyone else had this experience? …
What’s Not Co-Regulation
Understanding what co-regulation IS and ISN’T can transform your relationships! It’s not about mirroring someone’s panic or distress—it’s about maintaining calm and helping others find their way back to a place of peace. In Chapter 6 of my book ‘Heal …
Tips for Co-Regulation
Experiencing this kind of love in a relationship is deeply healing. It has the power to change an insecure attachment style to a secure one. Over time, you will learn to self-regulate and fill in the developmental gap you missed. …
What is Co-Regulation?
Remember, healing and growth are always possible, and they often begin in the shared spaces between us. Who taught you co-regulation? Love, Jen
Why Co-Regulation is Important
When a nervous system with little co-regulation starts to receive co-regulation as an adult, it will learn to regulate itself. This is where we reach the limits of individual personal development work. At this stage, we need to be in …