Do you find yourself chasing while your partner pulls away? Or perhaps you’re the one retreating when emotions feel overwhelming? This pattern—the Pursuer-Withdrawer Cycle—is one of the most common relationship dynamics keeping couples stuck and disconnected. Healing begins with awareness. …
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Why Do I Always Need to Fix Things Immediately After an Argument?
Do you feel an overwhelming urgency to fix things right after a disagreement? Does the silence feel unbearable, like something terrible will happen if you don’t resolve it right away? In this episode of Psychotherapy Central, we explore the deep-rooted …
What Is Inner Child Work?
Inner Child work is part of many research-based psychotherapeutic models, including Transactional Analysis, internal family systems, EMDR, Gestalt Therapy, schema therapy and narrative therapy. The reason why it is part of so many therapies is that it WORKS. We all …
Working with Your Inner Child
Over the years, I have spent time getting to know all the parts of my inner child at many different ages. Each age holds new gems of self-discovery and power that have been locked away. What lights up your …
What is the inner child?
Children are born explorers. Their creativity isn’t just for fun—it’s how they make sense of the world. Every new sound, texture, and experience sparks curiosity. They reach, taste, listen, and play their way through life, learning as they go. But …
Why Avoidant Partners Pull Away
If your partner shuts down or distances themselves when stressed, it doesn’t mean they don’t care. People with avoidant attachment styles often move away as a protective strategy—not to hurt you, but to keep themselves safe. Avoidant behaviour isn’t about …
Why We Choose Avoidant Partners – an IFS Perspective
“It’s safer to pull back.” But: This isn’t the whole truth. It’s a protective part, trying to shield you from the potential hurt. Real healing happens when you get curious about this part, meet it with compassion, and show it …
We Choose Avoidant Partners: An Internal Family Systems Perspective
‘Many of you may feel stuck in a painful cycle—repeatedly choosing avoidant or emotionally distant partners despite craving closeness. You might wonder why you always feel unseen, unheard, or unimportant in relationships. When you feel this way, it is common …
The Strengths of Your Ancestors
When we look back at our ancestors, we can often find surprising, hidden strengths and things that connect us to our sense of belonging in the world. Ever since I was little, I have been desperate to see the …
Why You Apologize Even When It’s Not Your Fault
Check out Episode 39 of the Psychotherapy Central Podcast: Understanding and Healing Protest Behaviors Through an IFS Lens. Listen here: Enjoy, and let me know what you think in the comments. Love, Jen