If you read through this list and know that energy is lacking in one of these areas in your relationship, how could that area be energised somehow? How could you meet in that area differently? What experiments could you do …
Tag: Healing
Relationships are a Co-creation
You cannot rely on your partner to always be available, attuned to you, or help you heal. A relationship is a joint effort where both partners contribute to its growth. By building trust and learning to support each other during …
5 Tips for When You Feel New Relationship Anxiety
Moving into a new relationship is all about stepping into vulnerability. We often feel anxious when we become vulnerable because we risk being hurt. I hope these tips will be helpful for those of you experiencing new relationship anxiety. Let …
What is “New Relationship Anxiety”?
Anxiety is usually protective. It is trying to stop us from being hurt. Feeling some anxiety at the beginning of a new relationship is quite common. When we enter a new relationship, we start to dance with vulnerability. Vulnerability requires …
The Avoidant Partner
When in conflict, it’s common for people with an avoidant adaptation to want to get away, to shut down and feel confused. This is often super frustrating for the other person who doesn’t understand what’s happening. Inside, the avoidant partner …
Whenever You Feel Desperate To Be Chosen, It’s a Deep Calling To Choose Yourself
Big shout out to Tory Eletto @nytherapist – she’s one of the therapists I’ve been following from the beginning, and I LOVE her work. Like – every post! So, how do you choose yourself? Like Dr Richard Schwartz (founder of …
Blaming Partner
When in conflict, if you have an anxious adaptation, it is common to get into a pattern of feeling alone and hopeless in your relationship. Rather than give up, you might find yourself becoming critical of your partner and pursuing …
Avoidant Experiences
What is Avoidant Attachment? Avoidant attachment refers to a tendency to avoid emotional closeness and dependency on others. Those with this attachment style may have developed self-reliance as a defence mechanism, often suppressing their need for connection. This can make …
Feeling Loved and Important
Feeling loved and Important to your partner is an attachment need. BUT HOW??? Here are some ways to make your partner feel loved and important:
Being Understood and Accepted
Which one has more power for you? To be understood or accepted? To be understood is to have someone say, “You make sense” in one way or another.To be accepted is to belong. Both are food for the heart and …