Differentiating from your family of origin is a journey. When you come from a family with strong traditions and family norms, differentiating can be difficult, and there can be strong backlash.
Backlash can sound like threatening to cut you out of the family, giving you the silent treatment, talking about you behind your back or using guilt to control you.
The desire to be attached as a child is a survival instinct, and even as adults, we have younger parts that carry this instinct. The journey of differentiation is giving love and approval to yourself. When that is solid, there will be less need for approval from your family.
P.s. If you are interested in ‘parts work’ or ‘inner child work’, you might like to check out my ‘Meet your Inner Child’ short self-paced course