Tag: healing journey

Healing Takes Time

Healing Takes Time

May 25, 2021

Have you ever become frustrated with yourself on your healing journey? Thinking: Why are relationships still so difficult for me? Why do I still react like a child around my parents? Why do I still feel anxious all the time? …

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What We Imagine Growth To Be:

What We Imagine Growth To Be:

May 4, 2021

Have you ever been in the trap of imagining that when you have grown enough, everything in your life will be ‘perfect’? You will have the ‘perfect’ job, one that your sense of purpose is aligned with, and you will …

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Dark Night of the Soul as an Existential Crisis - Where the Scaffolds Come Crashing Down In modern culture, when we talk about the dark night of the soul, we are talking about an experience that creates a sense of meaninglessness and takes you into the depths of your being.

Dark Night of the Soul as an Existential Crisis

May 1, 2021

Where the Scaffolds Come Crashing Down Did you know that the origin of the phrase ‘Dark Night of the Soul’ is a poem written by a 16th-century Spanish mystic, St John of the Cross? In it, he talks about the …

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How to Support Yourself as a 'Cycle Breaker.' BLUE Accept that you are different from your family of origin, and that's okay Remember that you are doing the healing work for your children and their children Find a tribe outside of your family of origin Find supportive people, therapists, teachers, etc Educate yourself in new ways of being and communicating Develop clear boundaries with your family Don't expect anyone else to change Develop empathy for yourself and your family Keep a journal and remind yourself to align with YOUR values Permit yourself to take a break from the family or distance if necessary Trust yourself

How to Support Yourself as a ‘Cycle Breaker’

April 8, 2021

A cycle breaker in a family is someone who consciously chooses to develop different ways of communicating, interacting, living and thinking to their family of origin. This can start at a very young age, knowing early that you just think …

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1 - What is Reparenting? 2 - Reparenting is the process of learning to meet your authentic needs as an adult. 3 - We learn how to get our needs met by our primary caregiver. If that person was misattuned and our needs were not met or was overly critical or abusive, or that person could not care for themselves effectively. We may not learn to recognise our needs or expect to have them met by ourselves or anyone else. 4 - Signs Reparenting Would be Helpful to Me: I often abandon myself by putting others needs first I struggle to put in place healthy boundaries that protect my energy I have angry outbursts that feel like tantrums I struggle to keep promises to myself and others I have a deep sense of not being good enough Most of my relationships are co-dependent and dysfunctional I look outside myself for validation and acceptance I struggle with love addiction or other types of addictions 5 - We have the opportunity to learn how to: Validate our reality Be kind to ourselves rather than critical Say 'no' when we need to Comfort ourselves in a healthy way when we are feeling a strong emotion Tune into our authentic need at any moment

What is Reparenting?

April 8, 2021

Wherever you are in your healing journey, reparenting is part of it. When we have been raised by adults who didn’t know how to regulate their nervous system, who did not have the skills to role model healthy boundaries or …

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Breaking the Cycle of Poverty

Breaking the Cycle of Poverty

March 29, 2021

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Discover - in this phase, we discover the unhelpful patterns we are repeating in our life. It might be a repeating pattern of choosing avoidant partners, of having yet another narcissist in your life, or of having your reality denied. Heal - This is the phase where you take the time to get to the root of the issue, rather than just addressing the symptoms. You will ask, 'What part of me is attracted to an avoidant person?’ And ‘how can I attend to and heal that part of me to break this cycle?' Grow - As you heal, you start to change. You need new boundaries, new goals, and new ways of being in the world that are aligned with this new you. This phase is expansive and exciting, and sometimes a bit scary!

The Cycle Breakers’ Circle

March 29, 2021

This is the cycle we all go through on any healing journey. We need to discover where we are stuck, what we have inherited from our parents and our childhood. Then we need to attend to and heal those wounded …

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BLUE The Repeating Cycle of Attachment Wounding. 1. The child is raised by a mother with mental health issues. She is not attuned to the child and numbs her pain with drugs and alcohol 2. The child learns that she cannot rely on her mother for comfort; she learns to stay out of the way and starts to care for herself 3. She develops an 'avoidant' attachment style 4. As a mother, she finds intimacy difficult and pushes her child away 5. The child develops either an avoidant or anxious attachment style 6. And the cycle continues

What is a Cycle Breaker?

March 29, 2021

We all have repeating patterns or ‘cycles’ in our family of origin. It might be repeating patterns of failed marriages, drug and alcohol problems, or family conflict.  You become a cycle breaker when you first see the cycle and then …

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When we find ourselves experiencing the same pain AGAIN, it is our subconscious trying to heal our wounds.

Why Do We Often Experience The Same Patterns of Pain?

March 29, 2021

Have you ever asked yourself why you end up in the same situation feeling the same pain AGAIN? It might be feeling unnoticed by your boyfriend. Maybe he seems to prioritise everyone and everything else but you. In response, you …

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How to Self-Soothe Let yourself know that you are not going to abandon yourself. Take three slow, deep, conscious breaths down into your belly. Notice: 5 things you can see around you 4 things you can touch 3 things you can hear 2 things you can smell 1 thing you can taste

How to Self-Soothe

March 19, 2021

Self-soothing is one of the most important life skills we can learn. So many of us did not learn this vital skill from our parents. They were distracted, absent, or unable to soothe their child because they couldn’t soothe themselves. …

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