Children should be free to be just that—children. They shouldn’t carry the weight of their parent’s emotions, learning to set aside their own feelings to maintain peace. This cycle teaches them to constantly read the room, striving to be the …
Tag: Cycle breaker
Kids Managing Parent’s Mood
When children have to manage their parent’s emotions, it creates a burden for the child. Being kids, they often set aside their own feelings and needs to maintain peace. They lose some of the carefree joy of being a child. …
Book Review for Heal Your Anxious Attachment
Sitting back and reading the book reviews from clinicians, educators, and the general public is fantastic. It makes the year of study and focus worth it. I wrote Heal Your Anxious Attachment because my clients and community asked for a …
Be Authentic
If they’ve only ever known the version of you that walks on eggshells, careful and curated, then they’ve only seen a the watered-down version of you. It takes energy to be this smaller version, to keep the mask in place. …
When a Part of You is Searching for Redemption
When a part of you is searching for redemption, you end up in toxic relationships that remind you of your past. Let’s imagine your dad was distant. Maybe he was always at work, a bit distant, and you got the …
Ep 25 Nine Tips for Dating If You Are Avoidantly Attached
When you are avoidantly attached, dating can feel like a complete minefield. You might have had people tell you that you are aloof, a closed book, secretive or not open to a relationship, even when you would like a relationship …
Get Sh*t Done
I’m quite a goal-driven person. I find having goals and a vision to move forward with helpful. For me, if I can imagine it, then it is possible. I have a ‘get sh*t done’ mentality. But not at any cost. …
The Cycle Breakers’ Circle
This is the cycle we all go through on any healing journey. We need to discover where we are stuck and what we inherited from our parents and childhood. Then we need to attend to and heal those wounded parts, …
The repeating cycle of attachment wounding
We all have repeating patterns or ‘cycles’ in our family of origin. It might be repeating patterns of failed marriages, drug and alcohol problems, or family conflict. You become a cycle breaker when you first see the cycle and …
Family Secrets
Did you have to hold a secret for an adult in your family or keep a secret from the rest of your family? Keeping secrets in families, especially across generations, can harm the family and the secret holder. Take the …