Ask each other, ‘How are you really doing? What’s on your mind?’ Listen with empathy, without rushing to solve or judge.” When do you do this as a couple?
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Steps Forward in the Anxious/Avoidant Dynamic
We are always learning each other in relationship. We learn about our partner’s history, preferences, triggers and attachment style. And, of course, we are constantly learning about ourselves. Remember that all of the attachment styles exist on a spectrum. That …
A Beautiful Quote From Gabor Maté
When safety is threatened, and we are connected with others, we are more able to deal with the threat. From an IFS perspective, when we are connected to Self (similar to the soul or Higher Self), our other parts will …
The Five Components of Compassion
wonder what might stop you from connecting with another person’s suffering? Is it the thought that you will be dragged into their suffering? Is it fear that you will be agreeing with them on some level? Is it fear of …
Heart-Wisdom
I’m just reflecting on how I move in and out of my heart wisdom throughout the day. I can stay connected through the mundane but allow bigger things to grab my attention. Mostly different forms of irritation. Irritation is low-level …
Being Alone and The Heart
When I am more connected to my heart, I am connected to my power. Not power as in force, power as in love-power. When connected to my love-power, knowing what I need and desire and which direction to go in …
Understanding Attachment Wounding: Healing Unhelpful Relationship Patterns
As children, our survival depends on staying connected to our caregivers. It’s a simple truth: without them, we cannot thrive. That’s why they say, “We are wired for connection.” However, growing up with caregivers who are not attuned to …
Conflict as an Opportunity
The curiosity here is around reactivity, and when fight, flight or freeze might take over for either of you in the relationship. This is a conversation that needs to happen when you are NOT in the middle of an argument. …
When We Are Driven By Obligation Not Values
If you value your relationship with your mother and she wants you to call daily, but you find it exhausting, what do you do? I like to look under the request to explore what is REALLY there. What is it …