I had such a wonderful chat with Marla. We covered all things attachment and touched on trauma, EMDR, IFS, meditation and healing. Head over to her podcast and check it out. If you like what you hear, please leave a …
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Attachment Adaptations and Trauma
This is an excerpt from my upcoming book “Heal Your Anxious Attachment” landing Feb 2024. When you have one of the insecure attachment styles, it is easy to be self-critical and feel flawed in some way when you see yourself …
Anxious Attachment Explained
Episode 3 of the podcast has landed – ‘Anxious Attachment Explained’ Head over to Apple Podcasts or Spotify to listen.
Identifying Your Attachment Style
Up until the age of two, our brain is growing at a furious rate. The neurons are connecting, and the brain is being wired, literally. In the relationship with our primary caregiver (usually the mother), we are being wired for …
An Antidote To Consumerism
There are some aspects of Buddhism that are incredibly close to my heart. One of them helps with the human condition of suffering. It’s called “letting go” and is said to bring happiness. You might like to try this little …
What Does A Secure, Healthy Relationship Look Like?
I have been asked a lot recently, what does a healthy relationship look like? What are the people who have secure relationships doing? They have learnt, over time, how to balance the ‘we’ and the ‘me’, to repair the inevitable …
The Dance Of The Disorganised And The Securely Attached
So, it starts great. It is AMAZING for the disorganised person to finally be in a relationship with someone who appreciates and respects you. Your new partner is attentive, calls and texts regularly and doesn’t leave you guessing. They do …
The Dance of The Avoidant and The Securely Attached
Something I haven’t seen talked about anywhere else is the phenomenon where an avoidant will create an anxious attachment out of a normally securely attached person. Can this happen? Yes! I know because I have had this experience myself. I …
The Dance Of The Anxious And The Securely Attached
The honeymoon phase for the anxiously attached is wonderful, as they finally find someone to partner with. Deep down they feel that the world is not a safe place, so it is safer with someone than alone. The honeymoon phase …