Like any form of self-care that we have not grown up with, we have to learn how to do it at some time. There is no better time than now. Think of strengthening your boundaries as a radical act of …
Setting Healthy Personal Boundaries
Boundaries are part of your self-care and self-love regime. Forget hot baths and face masks (well, not totally, just move them down your priority list) and move boundaries to the top. There is not much that will drain your energy …
Recognising Unhealthy Boundaries with Parents
As we grow older, it is natural that boundaries with our parents shift. As a 3-year-old, we will need someone to come with us to the bathroom, but not as a 12-year-old. As we move into the teenage years, it …
What Respecting Boundaries Might Sound Like
In many intimate relationships, especially with friends and partners, we get used to them doing certain things and playing certain roles in our lives. It can be difficult at first when those people decide they need to stop doing those …
Why Apologies Are Important
Saying sorry is important when it is done with sincerity and when real actions are taken to make amends and to right the wrong that was done. An apology can be a powerful gift for both the giver and the …
Why You Might Have Difficulties Setting Family Boundaries
Boundaries are an act of self-love and are part of healthy self-care. As we grow older, it is natural that we need different boundaries with our family to those that were suitable as a child. This means that even in …
Skilled and Unskilled Boundary Setting
Think about the difference between: “You are late again, you don’t care about me, it is so disrespectful” and “I feel disrespected and sad when you are late to meet me, and I need you to call and let me …
Examples of Self-Talk to Support Your Boundaries
Boundaries are a form of self-care and self-love. Once you have set a boundary, the struggle can be maintaining it. Maintaining a boundary takes strength and self-trust. I find if I am not sure about the boundary I have set, …
Tips for Setting and Maintaining Boundaries
Boundaries are part of self-care. They are an expression of love and protection from ourselves, to ourselves. I find that the boundaries I struggle to maintain are the ones that for different reasons, other people don’t like. I find the …
Tips for Conversations about Family Issues
Your boundaries are for YOU, they are not to change the other person. They are to keep you and your energy safe. Boundaries are healthy. Without boundaries our energy gets drained, we become resentful and angry and we are susceptible …