When in conflict, it’s common for people with an avoidant adaptation to want to get away, to shut down and feel confused. This is often super frustrating for the other person who doesn’t understand what’s happening. Inside, the avoidant partner …
Whenever You Feel Desperate To Be Chosen, It’s a Deep Calling To Choose Yourself
Big shout out to Tory Eletto @nytherapist – she’s one of the therapists I’ve been following from the beginning, and I LOVE her work. Like – every post! So, how do you choose yourself? Like Dr Richard Schwartz (founder of …
Blaming Partner Patterns
When you have an anxious adaptation in relationships, conflict signals danger to the nervous system. When this happens, your nervous system fills with energy and prepares you for fight or flight. This is super helpful if a tiger is chasing …
Blaming Partner
When in conflict, if you have an anxious adaptation, it is common to get into a pattern of feeling alone and hopeless in your relationship. Rather than give up, you might find yourself becoming critical of your partner and pursuing …
Avoidant Experiences
What is Avoidant Attachment? Avoidant attachment refers to a tendency to avoid emotional closeness and dependency on others. Those with this attachment style may have developed self-reliance as a defence mechanism, often suppressing their need for connection. This can make …
Feeling Loved and Important
Feeling loved and Important to your partner is an attachment need. BUT HOW??? Here are some ways to make your partner feel loved and important:
Being Understood and Accepted
Which one has more power for you? To be understood or accepted? To be understood is to have someone say, “You make sense” in one way or another.To be accepted is to belong. Both are food for the heart and …
Attachment Needs
I have a FREE resource to help you get awareness of your negative cycle. This cycle is frustrating and usually makes you both feel more disconnected than ever. Learning what your negative cycle is so you can identify it in …
Feel Like Whatever You Do is Wrong?
I have a FREE resource to help you get awareness. In it you will learn: My gift to you, Love, Jen
Unmasking Attachment Anxiety
Attachment anxiety is when we learn as children that we can’t depend on the adults around us, so we adapt our behaviour to suit the situation we are experiencing in that relationship to stay alive, fed and loved. One adaptation …