Can THIS person give me the support I need right now? If the answer is yes, great. If the answer is no, know that there can be many reasons why they cannot offer that support. Know that you deserve to …
Dark Night of the Soul
Fifteen years ago today, I married my best friend. It was, hands down, the hardest thing I have ever done. We came from different socioeconomic backgrounds, different cultures, different countries, but hardest of all, we came from different religions. We …
Being In The Darkness With A Therapist
Sometimes, we don’t get what we need from our friends and family. This doesn’t necessarily mean they don’t care about or love us. It might mean: they are triggered by you they are triggered by what is happening to you …
How do I Protect Myself as a Therapist
Do we need protecting from people? Sometimes, I think the answer is definitely yes, and sometimes not. Do I need to protect myself as a therapist? I like to think about this in terms of protective factors. I have been …
As a Therapist I Often Experience
Many people wonder why on earth I chose to be a therapist. “Why would you want to sit all day and listen to people’s pain and suffering, life is hard enough as it is!” The funny thing is, listening to …
What You Need to Know About Needs and Relationships
Attempting to get all our needs met through one person is often a subconscious pattern. We all have the need to be loved, accepted, for play, for trust and connection. Some of these needs can only be met interpersonally, in …
What are Core Childhood Needs?
When core needs go unmet, unhealthy coping mechanisms result. This is natural, because a child needs to keep themselves safe and over time, learns how to get their needs met, however they can. For many people, having needs at all …
Psychotherapy Helps you Get to the Root of your Pain
There is so much that our parents didn’t know about life and were simply unable to teach us. Therapy provides a space to learn tools to help with the mini trauma’s life throws at us. When we have experienced trauma …
How YOU Can Help Your Therapist
Being in therapy is about forming a relationship based on trust and honesty. The relationship is a safe space for you to practice being vulnerable, honest and open. If you know there is something big you want to share, but …
Where to start when you can’t afford therapy
Therapy can be expensive. But I have always thought of it as a vital part of my own self-care. At times I have gone without some things in order to prioritise my mental health, and it has always paid off. …