A snippet from my live session ‘Attachment Explained’ last week. Whenever we are discussing adaptations, I feel a warmth in my heart, that for me is linked to compassion. We develop adaptations in reaction to an environment. We have to …
The Power of Gratitude for the Anxiously Attached – 3 tips
The trick for the anxiously attached person is to let the gratitude in. And that’s a journey. When our life has shown us that we are not valued, noticed, and treasured, it can be difficult to let genuine gratitude and …
Anxiously Attached People Appreciate Reassurance
Feel free to share this with your partner! You are allowed to ask for reassurance – reassurance = safety. The most important thing about reassurance is that it is congruent and truthful. If you feel unsure about the relationship, it …
Attaching to Unavailable People
When we have grown up with unavailable caregivers, we will often be attracted to unavailable partners because it is familiar. We are used to receiving breadcrumbsWe are used to feeling a significant distance between usWe are used to not being …
Anxiously Attached People Appreciate Consistency
Wow – the power of consistency with an anxiously attached person. It is like drinking a cool glass of water on a hot day – soothing, grounding, nourishing from the inside. The balance here is asking for the consistency that …
5 Ways to Support Your Anxiously Attached Partner
Learn more about attahcment styles and how they play out in relationships
We Self-Abandon When We:
Learning to stop self-abandoning happens in the small, silent moments that often nobody else knows about. Learning to listen to ourselves differently. I have found inner child, parts and somatic work to be the most powerful to navigate this pattern …
Abandonment To Self-Abandonment
We might call this people-pleasing, but for me, this is deeper. This happens in the small but powerful moments when we: Concede in an argument because we feel them pulling away. Have sex, but our body doesn’t feel like it, …
Seeking Others to Regulate Us.
The opportunity here is to give the younger self the soothing she so desperately wanted and deserved. I have been doing Inner Child and ‘parts’ work for over 17 years with myself and others and found it to be one …