We all have repeating patterns or ‘cycles’ in our family of origin. It might be repeating patterns of failed marriages, drug and alcohol problems, or family conflict. You become a cycle breaker when you first see the cycle and …
Category: Relationships
Family Secrets
Did you have to hold a secret for an adult in your family or keep a secret from the rest of your family? Keeping secrets in families, especially across generations, can harm the family and the secret holder. Take the …
Biological And Logical Family
Over and over again, I see people who have had to look outside the BIOLOGICAL family unit for affirmation, acceptance, connection and love. Sometimes, this is due to physical distance. When children immigrate as adults, they need to build a …
Responsiveness Is a Love Language
When our partners are not responsive, it can feel like we are playing tennis with no one hitting the ball back. It quickly gets lonely. If this is happening in your relationship, now is the time to get curious about …
MJ Barker Book Review
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Anxiously Attached People Appreciate Responsiveness
Responsiveness is a subtle form of communication and is a love language. When you respond to me reaching out for connection, the connection is validated, and I feel SAFE. There are so many ways we can be responsive. It is …
The Power Of Gratitude
The trick for the anxiously attached person is to let the gratitude in. And that’s a journey. When our life has shown us that we are not valued, noticed and treasured, it can be difficult to let genuine gratitude and …
What Is Generational Trauma?
At the root of generational trauma lies dysfunctional behavior within a family or a traumatic event that a collective group of people has experienced. A war, for example, might cause a family to experience hunger, fear, loss of loved ones, …
Anxiously Attached People Appreciate Consistency – Here are 4 tips
Feel free to share this with your partner! Wow – the power of consistency with an anxiously attached person. It is like drinking a cool glass of water on a hot day – soothing, grounding, and nourishing from the inside. …