Responsiveness is a subtle form of communication and is a love language. When you respond to me reaching out for connection, the connection is validated, and I feel SAFE. There are so many ways we can be responsive. It is …
Category: Relationships
The Power Of Gratitude
The trick for the anxiously attached person is to let the gratitude in. And that’s a journey. When our life has shown us that we are not valued, noticed and treasured, it can be difficult to let genuine gratitude and …
What Is Generational Trauma?
At the root of generational trauma lies dysfunctional behavior within a family or a traumatic event that a collective group of people has experienced. A war, for example, might cause a family to experience hunger, fear, loss of loved ones, …
Anxiously Attached People Appreciate Consistency – Here are 4 tips
Feel free to share this with your partner! Wow – the power of consistency with an anxiously attached person. It is like drinking a cool glass of water on a hot day – soothing, grounding, and nourishing from the inside. …
I’m Anxious, and My partner is Avoidantly Attached. Will it ever work?
The risk is the reenactment of the original wounds that created your attachment style in the first place. The opportunity here is for deep healing for both of you. Wherever you are on the spectrum, if you are serious about …
7 Questions for the Avoidantly Attached
If you are avoidant and ready to challenge yourself – here are the questions to ask. Remember that for avoidant people, you have learned NOT to reach out for support. Nobody has been there to hold you in the way …
Steps Forward in the Anxious/Avoidant Dynamic
We are always learning each other in relationship. We learn about our partner’s history, preferences, triggers and attachment style. And, of course, we are constantly learning about ourselves. Remember that all of the attachment styles exist on a spectrum. That …
Healing Your Anxious Attachment
Dealing with the anxious/avoidant dynamic takes many couples to therapy to work on the push-and-pull dance, with one chasing and the other retreating. Both become emotionally charged, each sticking to their tendencies—intensifying emotions, questioning, and actively participating (anxious), or pulling …
5 Ways to Increase Intimacy with Your Avoidantly Attached Partner
The key with the avoidantly attached is to remember that when they pull back, they are often just as upset as you. It is their coping mechanism that pulls them into solitude to self-soothe. This is how they did it …