Have you ever been in the trap of imagining that when you have grown enough, everything in your life will be ‘perfect’? You will have the ‘perfect’ job, one that your sense of purpose is aligned with, and you will …
Category: Psychotherapy
When We Are Driven By Obligation Not Values
If you value your relationship with your mother and she wants you to call daily, but you find it exhausting, what do you do? I like to look under the request to explore what is REALLY there. What is it …
Signs of Emotional Exhaustion
We have all been there. When we feel like there is no more to give, to ourselves or anyone else. We are burnt out, and emotionally exhausted. When this happens to me, I know it is a big shout-out for …
Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs
Some questions to ponder: Where am I deeply passionate about something in my life? What might self-actualisation in this area look like for me? What can I do daily to live more of that future self in my life? If …
Practicing Radical Acceptance
Acceptance and compassion form one of the modules in my course ‘‘Relationship Cycle Breaker’. In it, you will work through exactly HOW to move into more self-compassion and acceptance using research-based methods. Hopefully, I will meet you there. …
How long is too long in a relationship?
Sometimes we stay in unhealthy relationships for too long. For many reasons: I have invested so much time and energy into this, it can’t fail. Will I ever meet anyone better? Holding on to the idea that they will change. …
Consequences of Comparison
Let’s first differentiate between being inspired by someone and comparing yourself to someone. When we feel inspired by someone, we feel uplifted, and hopeful, as though anything is possible. When we are comparing ourselves to someone, there is a one …
Dark Night of the Soul
My Dark Night of the Soul happened in my mid 20’s, when I was forced to re-evaluate the core of my beliefs about the world, about society and who I was. I was also going through a values-based inner conflict …