“Maybe you don’t notice your progress because you’re always raising your bar.” And that right there healed me a little. — Unknown If you keep raising the bar, you’ll never feel your wins. Pause for a moment and let yourself …
Category: Healing
Relationships Are Classrooms: Why Old Patterns Resurface When You Get Close to Someone
I hear this all the time: “I felt so secure when I was single… but now that I’m in a relationship, all my old patterns are back.” And the truth is, that makes perfect sense. Because relationships don’t just reflect …
The Wait Will Make Sense Once the Right Thing Arrives
The universe is never late, just precise. What’s taking time is often taking shape. You can be in-between and still be in purpose. Not all movement is forward — some of it is inward. Holding out for what’s true is …
You’re Not Breaking — You’re Growing Wings
I sometimes wonder what the caterpillar’s last thought was before it was forced to let go into the goo of forever being changed. My guess is that it probably was not,‘I bet after this, I can fly.’ — Dr. Cassie …
The Real Challenges of Being a Cycle Breaker
Things That Are Challenging for Cycle Breakers — Nedra Tawwab Being a cycle breaker is powerful work, but it’s not easy. You’re not just healing yourself — you’re rewriting patterns that have existed for generations. You’re teaching yourself how to …
A Father’s Day Reflection: To The Men Who Show Up
A few months ago, I did an intense spiritual cleanse to support my hormonal system. It involved fasting, meditation, and daily group sessions with sacred medicine. On the first day, I walked into a room full of women, and something …
When I Ask How You’re Doing, I Always Want the Long Version
When I ask how you’re doing, I always want the long version. In my one-on-one sessions, people often apologise for “dumping” everything in the first 10 minutes. But that’s exactly what I want. Therapy is the place for the unfiltered …
They Were Just Broken — But That Doesn’t Make It Okay
Me, to my therapist:“But they weren’t evil. They were just broken. They had their own trauma.” My therapist:“And that’s valid. But let me ask you something… did their trauma give them the right to create new trauma inside you?” And …
When You Realise You’re Not Reacting to Your Partner — You’re Reacting to Your Childhood
There is a moment in therapy that changes everything. It is the moment you realise that the reaction you are having right now is not really about your partner. It feels like it is. It looks like it is. But …