Author: Jennifer
![You Don’t Have To Feel Broken To See A Therapist. You Can See A Therapist To: Make progress in areas you feel stuck Stop patterns repeating Help stop your negative self-talk Get clarity on a few things Improve your relationships Focus on yourself and your personal growth Be heard and validated by a neutral person Learn tools and techniques to lead a better life Get support](https://i0.wp.com/cdn1.jennynurick.com/wp-content/uploads/2021/03/23_03_2021_You-Dont-Have-To-Feel-Broken-To-See-A-Therapist.-You-Can-See-A-Therapist-To_-2-copy-scaled.jpg?fit=650%2C650&ssl=1)
You Don’t Have To Feel Broken To See A Therapist.
Working with a therapist and going through a process of self-exploration and change is one of the most empowering experiences we can have. Most people have never been held in a safe, supporting, non-bias space where they can be truly …
![How Having to Be Right Damages your Relationship and What to Do About it. Always having to be right comes from perfectionism – If you are not correct, you are not perfect One person feels wrong all the time; this can negatively affect self-esteem There is an imbalance in the relationship, with the ‘always right’ person having more power and perhaps being a bully When one person always has to be wrong, they may stop expressing their genuine opinion and withdraw from the relationship](https://i0.wp.com/cdn1.jennynurick.com/wp-content/uploads/2021/03/1-5-scaled.jpg?fit=650%2C650&ssl=1)
How Having to Be Right Damages your Relationship and What to Do About it.
Have you ever been in a relationship with someone who has to be right all the time? It can be so frustrating. Even when there is evidence that they are wrong, they won’t openly say, “oh, I was wrong”, they …
![How Many Days Does It Take to Change a Habit? (According to the Research) How long does it take to change a habit? You have probably heard 21 days, or maybe 30 or 40? In a recent study by University College London, they discovered that it takes an average of 66 days to change a habit like eating fruit at lunch. They also found, if you miss a day here or there, it doesn’t affect your results, but being diligent at the beginning has more impact.](https://i0.wp.com/cdn1.jennynurick.com/wp-content/uploads/2021/03/Screenshot-2021-03-22-at-09.02.18.png?fit=293%2C299&ssl=1)
How Many Days Does It Take to Change a Habit? (According to the Research)
When you ask Google how long it takes to break a habit, you’ll probably land on a number between 21 and 28 days. This number is not grounded in scientific evidence at all. When I have been working on changing …
![How to Reconnect After an Argument I felt pretty angry when we were having that conversation. I'm sorry if that pushed you away. I'm feeling quite disconnected right now and a bit scared. Could I have a hug? I'm not sure we resolved anything there. Could we try to discuss it again in a different way tomorrow? That was quite an intense discussion for me. Can we just sit together and have some tea? You feel distant after that conversation. Is there anything you need? Laugh about something unrelated. Talk about something else that is neutral for you both, like the gardening or a movie you watched.](https://i0.wp.com/cdn1.jennynurick.com/wp-content/uploads/2021/03/19_03_2021_How-to-Reconnect-After-an-Argument-copy-scaled.jpg?fit=650%2C650&ssl=1)
How to Reconnect After an Argument
We all know that uncomfortable few minutes after a heated discussion. The argument’s energy is hanging in the air, and you are both processing what was said. If your trauma response has been activated, you might be calming your nervous …
![How to Self-Soothe Let yourself know that you are not going to abandon yourself. Take three slow, deep, conscious breaths down into your belly. Notice: 5 things you can see around you 4 things you can touch 3 things you can hear 2 things you can smell 1 thing you can taste](https://i0.wp.com/cdn1.jennynurick.com/wp-content/uploads/2021/03/18_03_2021_How-to-Self-Soothe-copy-scaled.jpg?fit=650%2C650&ssl=1)
How to Self-Soothe
Self-soothing is one of the most important life skills we can learn. So many of us did not learn this vital skill from our parents. They were distracted, absent, or unable to soothe their child because they couldn’t soothe themselves. …
![What causes a dysregulated nervous system A trauma or event in the past that we could not process at the time, so it didn’t complete and got stuck in our nervous system. Continued exposure to danger and stress. Addictive substances Living in an unsafe environment Life transitions such as death, pregnancy, divorce etc.](https://i0.wp.com/cdn1.jennynurick.com/wp-content/uploads/2021/03/17_03_2021_What-causes-a-dysregulated-nervous-system-copy-scaled.jpg?fit=650%2C650&ssl=1)
What Causes a Dysregulated Nervous System?
The role of our nervous system is to ensure we survive. If we are under attack, it prepares us to move quickly, and if we are safe, it ensures other bodily functions such as digestion continue. Our parasympathetic nervous system …
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No Two children Have The Same Childhood
Is there space for them to BOTH be right? When one sibling remembers neglect, they remember the details and the house’s emotional temperature; that is their experience. That is what they remember. It is true for them.When the other sibling …
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69% of Relationship Problems are Unsolvable
According to the Gottman’s (excellent relationship researchers), 69% of relationship conflict is unsolvable. These are perpetual problems that stem from fundamental differences in beliefs or personality. They will be something that you return to as a couple repeatedly and often …
![How to Regulate your Nervous System BELLY BREATHING – Take three deep breathes into your belly, long and slow, lasting about 3 seconds on both the inhalation and exhalation. SCREEN BREAK – Our nervous system becomes overstimulated with media and multitasking. Take regular breaks from screens, perhaps for 2 hours per day and one hour before sleep. MINDFULNESS – Bring your whole self into the present moment. Notice what you can hear, see, smell, taste and feel. AFFIRMATION – Repeat to yourself, “I am happy, I am healthy, I have everything I need” three or more times. INNER CHILD – Take time to connect with your Inner Child and talk to them. Find out how they are and what they need to feel safe and calm. NATURE AND SUNSHINE – Nature is a natural regulator, go somewhere in nature and notice everything around you, the colours, sounds, and feelings. Imagine you can begin to breathe with nature in this place—breath in the serotonin-producing sunshine. CO-REGULATION – Regulating your nervous system with someone else. You can do this by sharing with someone you love and enjoying something together. MAKE TIME FOR JOY – Do something you love; gardening, baking, painting, reading, singing or dancing. This tells your nervous system that you are safe.](https://i0.wp.com/cdn1.jennynurick.com/wp-content/uploads/2021/03/1-3-2-scaled.jpg?fit=650%2C650&ssl=1)
How to Regulate your Nervous System
Adults who have experienced trauma at an early age are prone to experiencing dysregulation of the nervous system, especially when stressed. Dysregulation is known to be linked to depression, addiction, anxiety and emotional outbursts. The good news is that we …