Author: Jennifer
How Confidence Is Really Built
Your brain doesn’t learn that you’re capable because you tell yourself you are. It learns because you do hard things, survive them, and slowly begin to trust yourself. That’s how confidence is built. Confidence isn’t something you think your way …
The Biggest Mistake People Make in Healing
One of the biggest mistakes I see people make in healing is trying to get rid of the parts of themselves they don’t like. The anxious part, the angry part, the avoidant part, the people-pleaser, the perfectionist. I get it …
The Courage to Stay When Everything Feels Unfamiliar
At 12 years old, I left my school on a council estate in England to attend a private school on a scholarship. I remember feeling completely out of place. The girls seemed to come from a different world — they …
Memory Reconsolidation: Why Your Brain Can Still Heal
One of the most exciting discoveries in neuroscience is something called memory reconsolidation. For years, scientists believed that once an emotional memory was formed, it couldn’t be changed. We now know that’s not true. When an old emotional memory is …
Worrying Is the Worst Way to Use Your Imagination
Today someone said, “Worrying is the worst way to use your imagination,” and that’s easily the best thing I’ve heard all week. Like most people, I have a part that worries. Worries about my kids, my work, the world… Sometimes …
Your Youngest Wounds Don’t Have Words: Understanding Preverbal Parts
Your youngest wounds don’t have words. If something inside you feels overwhelmed… panicked… or desperately alone… it may not be your adult self reacting. Some of our deepest emotional wounds formed before we had language. Before we could explain what …