I see a lot of people run when met with consistency. Why?
When you are used to intimate relationships being chaotic, unstable and unpredictable, you end up living in a constant state of stress (sympathetic activation/fight or flight).
This state of stress is stimulating. Your nervous system activates you to run from a tiger and save your life. When you have this stress in a relationship, it feels familiar. This is what you have learnt love feels like.
So when you are met with consistency, it can feel boring, like something is missing. There is no sense of stimulation, and something feels wrong about it.
Challenge yourself to explore consistency. Get curious about what it feels like to be attuned to and seen. Care for the parts of you that might find it difficult to be truly seen.
