Having a go-to grounding list can be incredibly helpful when we’re feeling overwhelmed—especially if we have a trauma history. When we’re triggered, our sympathetic nervous system kicks in—hello, fight-or-flight. In those moments, we need simple, accessible ways to soothe ourselves …
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Healing Dissociation Part 1
I like to think of dissociation like a firefighter. When an internal alarm signals danger, the firefighter wakes up, puts on its firefighting gear, rushes to the rescue, and does what it knows how to do: dissociate. In therapy, we …
Safe Haven
All relationships go through ups and downs. When you iron out all the ups and down, be in a in a relationship that feels like a safe haven from the world outside.
When Consistency is Boring
I see a lot of people run when met with consistency. Why? When you are used to intimate relationships being chaotic, unstable and unpredictable, you end up living in a constant state of stress (sympathetic activation/fight or flight). This state …
Safe In a Relationship
When you don’t feel safe, the usual thing to do is to adapt your behaviour to create the most safety possible. This is when we people-please and shape-shift for approval or to keep the peace. When this happens, the need …
Safe Enough
For me, right now, it is the presence of my husband on his laptop. It is the felt sense of my house all around me. It is the pillows supporting my back. What allows you to feel ‘safe enough’ right …
The Importance of Safety For Healing
Take a moment to notice what around you creates a feeling of safety in your body. What connection feels safe to you? Who can you connect with that allows your body to exhale, to rest deeply?Where might you find that …
A Beautiful Quote From Gabor Maté
When safety is threatened, and we are connected with others, we are more able to deal with the threat. From an IFS perspective, when we are connected to Self (similar to the soul or Higher Self), our other parts will …