This is not about blaming the safer parent. This is about acknowledging a phase in the healing process where suddenly the rose-coloured glasses come off, and you see the safer parent for the human that they are. We need rose-coloured …
Tag: Relationships
Managing a Parent’s Moods
Children should be free to be just that—children. They shouldn’t carry the weight of their parent’s emotions, learning to set aside their own feelings to maintain peace. This cycle teaches them to constantly read the room, striving to be the …
Kids Managing Parent’s Mood
When children have to manage their parent’s emotions, it creates a burden for the child. Being kids, they often set aside their own feelings and needs to maintain peace. They lose some of the carefree joy of being a child. …
New Harbinger Article
Have you ever felt frustrated at yourself for choosing yet another unavailable partner? Maybe he is married or lives in another state or country. Perhaps he is dating you, but seems married to his work, mother, or friends. Or maybe …
Open Minded PodCast
I had such a wonderful chat with Marla. We covered all things attachment and touched on trauma, EMDR, IFS, meditation and healing. Head over to her podcast and check it out. If you like what you hear, please leave a …
Book Review for Heal Your Anxious Attachment
Sitting back and reading the book reviews from clinicians, educators, and the general public is fantastic. It makes the year of study and focus worth it. I wrote Heal Your Anxious Attachment because my clients and community asked for a …
Book Review: Heal Your Anxious Attachment
So wonderful to read reviews like this coming in. It makes the year I spent writing it so worth it!
Be Authentic
If they’ve only ever known the version of you that walks on eggshells, careful and curated, then they’ve only seen a the watered-down version of you. It takes energy to be this smaller version, to keep the mask in place. …
I Don’t Need You
Ever heard someone say, “I don’t need anyone”? It might sound super independent, but often, it’s a kind of armour that was placed there for a reason. Those with avoidant attachment styles might find this phrase super relatable. It’s like …
Ep 25 Nine Tips for Dating If You Are Avoidantly Attached
When you are avoidantly attached, dating can feel like a complete minefield. You might have had people tell you that you are aloof, a closed book, secretive or not open to a relationship, even when you would like a relationship …