Tag: Regulation

When you have the anxious attachment adaptation, part of you is seeking someone else to regulate you. Healing comes from learning to self-regulate more effectively AND engaging in co-regulation.

Seeking Others to Regulate Us.

February 27, 2022

The opportunity here is to give the younger self the soothing she so desperately wanted and deserved.  I have been doing Inner Child and ‘parts’ work for over 17 years with myself and others and found it to be one …

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When you have grown up in an unsafe environment, your nervous system is always on high alert, watching out for danger. Over time, it can be difficult for your nervous system to come back into a state of balance, so it becomes dysregulated. This might mean you feel stressed and anxious most of the time, and you might be jumpy and have extreme emotional reactions that you feel unable to control.⁣ ⁣

What You Need To Know About Dysregulation

March 29, 2021

When you have grown up in an unsafe environment, your nervous system is always on high alert, watching out for danger. Over time, it can be difficult for your nervous system to come back into a state of balance, so …

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How to Self-Soothe Let yourself know that you are not going to abandon yourself. Take three slow, deep, conscious breaths down into your belly. Notice: 5 things you can see around you 4 things you can touch 3 things you can hear 2 things you can smell 1 thing you can taste

How to Self-Soothe

March 19, 2021

Self-soothing is one of the most important life skills we can learn. So many of us did not learn this vital skill from our parents. They were distracted, absent, or unable to soothe their child because they couldn’t soothe themselves. …

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What causes a dysregulated nervous system A trauma or event in the past that we could not process at the time, so it didn’t complete and got stuck in our nervous system. Continued exposure to danger and stress. Addictive substances Living in an unsafe environment Life transitions such as death, pregnancy, divorce etc.

What Causes a Dysregulated Nervous System?

March 19, 2021

The role of our nervous system is to ensure we survive. If we are under attack, it prepares us to move quickly, and if we are safe, it ensures other bodily functions such as digestion continue. Our parasympathetic nervous system …

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How to Regulate your Nervous System BELLY BREATHING – Take three deep breathes into your belly, long and slow, lasting about 3 seconds on both the inhalation and exhalation. SCREEN BREAK – Our nervous system becomes overstimulated with media and multitasking. Take regular breaks from screens, perhaps for 2 hours per day and one hour before sleep. MINDFULNESS – Bring your whole self into the present moment. Notice what you can hear, see, smell, taste and feel. AFFIRMATION – Repeat to yourself, “I am happy, I am healthy, I have everything I need” three or more times. INNER CHILD – Take time to connect with your Inner Child and talk to them. Find out how they are and what they need to feel safe and calm. NATURE AND SUNSHINE – Nature is a natural regulator, go somewhere in nature and notice everything around you, the colours, sounds, and feelings. Imagine you can begin to breathe with nature in this place—breath in the serotonin-producing sunshine. CO-REGULATION – Regulating your nervous system with someone else. You can do this by sharing with someone you love and enjoying something together. MAKE TIME FOR JOY – Do something you love; gardening, baking, painting, reading, singing or dancing. This tells your nervous system that you are safe.

How to Regulate your Nervous System

March 16, 2021

Adults who have experienced trauma at an early age are prone to experiencing dysregulation of the nervous system, especially when stressed. Dysregulation is known to be linked to depression, addiction, anxiety and emotional outbursts.⁣ The good news is that we …

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