Have you ever wasted a whole day or week doing the easy tasks? I know I have! I find blocking out dedicated time for the more complex tasks to be incredibly effective. During that time, I have the ‘do not …
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“Trauma is a fact of life. It does not have to be a life sentence.”
For many people, trauma feels like a life sentence. It feels inescapable – a constant cloud of sadness, anxiety, or fear. Trauma is a sense of overwhelm that impacts our ability to adapt, thrive, and flourish. The symptoms of trauma …
Feel the Fear and Do it Anyway
On the one hand, I get this…let’s not be tied down by our own fear story and let it stand in the way of potentially fantastic opportunities and experiences. On the other hand, we want to be able to tolerate …
Often, When People Rage, They Are Suffering
What does it mean to suffer? There are many ways we can suffer. We can suffer physically with pain, mentally with mental illness or rumination, or spiritually with a lack of meaning or moral dilemma. Suffering is part of the …
The Five Components of Compassion
Compassion is an orientation towards suffering. It is how we meet the suffering of others and our suffering. Recognising suffering Understanding the human experience of suffering as universal Emotionally connecting with the other person’s suffering Being able to tolerate uncomfortable …
Compassion is a Function of the Heart
One way to assist compassionate thinking is to imagine what you would want for yourself if you were in someone else’s shoes. Or to imagine what someone else might have gone through and how it might have left them feeling. …
How Do We Meet Our Fear?
The first time I remember feeling fear I was about 4 years old. I was being dragged up the stairs of our home as punishment for something I don’t remember. I remember feeling numb. My whole body felt like it …
10 Tips for When You Feel “New Relationship Anxiety”
Moving into a new relationship is all about stepping into vulnerability. We often feel anxiety when we step into vulnerability because we risk being hurt. I hope these tips will be helpful for those of you experiencing new relationship anxiety. …
What is “New Relationship Anxiety”?
Anxiety is usually protective. It is trying to stop us from being hurt. Feeling some anxiety at the beginning of a new relationship is quite common. When we enter a new relationship, we start to dance with vulnerability. Vulnerability requires …