Ever notice how some people just shut down during conflicts? When Avoidantly Attached People feel threatened, they WITHDRAW to feel SAFE. Your nervous system tends to rest more in hyperarousal; it’s like your body’s way of shutting down when overwhelmed. …
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Awareness of Repeating Patterns
We have all been there, at that moment when you are doing precisely the same thing AGAIN. You are in pattern repeat, a cycle. For example, you are annoyed that your partner just spent a whole lot of the family …
Deciding to See a Therapist
You don’t need to be in crisis to work on any of these things. These are all valid reasons to see a therapist. Seeing a therapist is a great way to MAINTAIN your well-being. People go to therapy for lots …
The Unavailable Father
So much of the literature in mental health and psychology has focused on the mother and attachment with the mother. But what about our fathers? As children, we need a healthy father figure. It doesn’t have to be a biological …
Un- Resolved Issues Affect The Present
This is why we end up repeating cycles in our relationships. We unconsciously repeat aspects of our childhood that remain unprocessed in our current relationship—usually the most intimate relationship, whether that is a friendship or partnership. I love to look …
Traumatic Re-enactments
One of the best ways to move through the traumatic re-enactments is with a Trauma-Informed Therapist. Someone who will hold a loving space for your healing and integration. Where you can review your triggers and patterns and form new ways …
Are You Stuck in Pattern Repeat?
When we are growing up, we get used to the relational distance between us and our caregivers. We chose a distance that feels safe. We do whatever we need to do to maintain the ‘safe distance’, close enough where I …
The Healing Journey
There is a cycle we all go through while we are healing. It is the cycle of discovery, healing and then growth. As we discover, it can be confronting. It can be confronting to watch yourself push your partner away …
When You Are In Repeat Pattern…
We have all been there, at that moment when you are doing precisely the same thing AGAIN. You are in pattern repeat, a cycle. For example, you are annoyed that your partner just spent a whole lot of the family …
Things for Cycle Breakers To Remember About Family
For all the cycle breakers out there, this is for you. When you feel like you don’t belong in your family, you just feel somehow different, know that you are not alone. It’s okay to see patterns in your family …