They said: “Hurt people hurt people.” I answered: Not all hurt people hurt people. Some spend their lives making sure no one else feels what they did.Some break cycles.Some build safe spaces.Some turn pain into purpose. Hurt people don’t just …
Tag: InnerChildHealing
The Wait Will Make Sense Once the Right Thing Arrives
The universe is never late, just precise. What’s taking time is often taking shape. You can be in-between and still be in purpose. Not all movement is forward — some of it is inward. Holding out for what’s true is …
You’re Not Breaking — You’re Growing Wings
I sometimes wonder what the caterpillar’s last thought was before it was forced to let go into the goo of forever being changed. My guess is that it probably was not,‘I bet after this, I can fly.’ — Dr. Cassie …
The Real Challenges of Being a Cycle Breaker
Things That Are Challenging for Cycle Breakers — Nedra Tawwab Being a cycle breaker is powerful work, but it’s not easy. You’re not just healing yourself — you’re rewriting patterns that have existed for generations. You’re teaching yourself how to …
They Were Just Broken — But That Doesn’t Make It Okay
Me, to my therapist:“But they weren’t evil. They were just broken. They had their own trauma.” My therapist:“And that’s valid. But let me ask you something… did their trauma give them the right to create new trauma inside you?” And …
Feeling Stuck? Three Questions to Ask Yourself When You Can’t Let Go
You know that feeling when you desperately want to give something up, but you just can’t? We often feel stuck when different parts of us want different things. One part might want to give something up, while another part clings …
“Do You Love Me?” — When an Old Part of You Is Speaking
When you find yourself asking your partner again and again, “Do you love me?”, it’s not about being clingy or dramatic. Often, it’s an old part of you speaking. A younger part that once lived in uncertainty. A child who …
Self-Betrayal: Why You Learned to Disconnect from Your Needs
When you have grown up in an environment where your needs were not met or ignored, you learned to disconnect from them. As an adult, this has created one of two situations: When your needs as a child were not …
Differences in Relationships: Why Conflict Isn’t a Sign You’re With the Wrong Person
Every relationship will have differences. It is not the differences themselves that determine whether a relationship thrives or struggles; it is how we navigate them. When we approach differences with curiosity instead of defensiveness, we open the door to understanding. …
When You Can’t See How Far You’ve Come
When you’re in the middle of change, it can be hard to see how far you’ve come. The shifts might feel small, but over time they add up. Someone who meets you weekly can often see them more clearly than …