Tag: Healing

Self-Betrayal: Neglecting Your Needs When you have grown up in an environment where your needs were not met or ignored, you learned to disconnect from them. As an adult, this has created one of two situations: You don’t know what you need You know what you need, but you push it down and ignore it, believing you are not as important as the people around you.

Self-Betrayal: Neglecting Your Needs

August 24, 2022

Being scared of your needs is NORMAL when you have grown up in an environment where it was not okay or safe to ask for your needs to be met. Know that you CAN shift this pattern. You CAN reconnect …

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Self-Betrayal: Putting Others First

August 24, 2022

When we grow up with abusive or neglectful parents, we quickly learn to ignore our own needs. Maybe it is dangerous to express our needs, or when we do, they are ignored. The result is a deep disconnect from our …

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Protective Factors for Suicide Prevention

Protective Factors for Suicide Prevention

August 24, 2022

If you read through this list and see that you are weak in some of these factors, you can always strengthen others. For example, if your family has a lot of conflicts and it feels out of your control, you …

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REACHING OUT TO SOMEONE YOU ARE WORRIED ABOUT It is NORMAL to feel apprehensive; know you don’t have to be a professional to be there for someone you care about. Reaching out could save someone’s life. Choose a time to talk where there is privacy, go for a walk or a drive. How are you? How are you really? I have noticed you seemed a bit quiet /upset/down etc., the last few days/weeks. Keep asking open-ended questions. Remember to be non-judgmental and calm. It is okay to ask, “Are you thinking about suicide?” Give their feelings and experiences legitimacy – ‘That sounds really painful, I can understand why you feel like this’. Offer support – ‘I’m here in any way you need me to be’. Let them know they can get help, and they will get better with help. You might help them find a counsellor or call their doctor. If you are scared and need help yourself, you can call Lifeline for support: 131114

Reaching Out To Someone You Are Worried About

August 24, 2022

This post is a great pocket guide for ‘how to have that conversation’.  Above (in the slide) are the DOs, and below are the DO NOTS: Don’t try to talk them out of suicide Don’t try to fix their problem. …

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A suicide attempt is not ‘attention-seeking behaviour’. It’s ALWAYS a cry for help. It can be confronting to sit and hold space for someone feeling suicidal. We have to manage our feelings as well as hold space for their feelings. Before I had training in suicide prevention, I thought that talking about suicide with a person contemplating suicide might encourage them to do it. I found out in training that this is incorrect. In fact, talking openly about it is helpful. It can provide an outlet for intense feelings. It’s important to listen without judgement or offering solutions, be an empathetic and validating listener, and get more support for yourself and them.

A Suicide Attempt is a Cry for Help

August 23, 2022

When people are considering suicide, they need help from a trained professional. A therapist, counsellor, or doctor as soon as possible.  Emergency assistance is available in Australia through Lifeline: 13 11 14 ____ Reference: https://medbroadcast.com/condition/getcondition/suicide

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Statistics of Suicide in Australia 8 Australians die every day from suicide – that is more than DOUBLE the road toll Suicide is the LEADING cause of death in people 15-44 75% are male 65,000 people attempt suicide annually People in rural populations are 2 times more likely to die to suicide For each person we lose to suicide, 135 people are impacted. Same-gender attracted Australians are estimated to experience up to 14 times higher rates of suicide attempts.

Statistics of Suicide in Australia

August 23, 2022

When I look at these statistics, I feel really sad. If suicide rates can be taken to be somehow reflective of how we are doing as a community in the area of mental health, then we are failing.  If anyone …

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Guilt is only appropriate when we have done something out of alignment with our values.

Familial Guilt and Aligning with Our Values

August 23, 2022

This is one I come back to again and again. Whenever I am feeling guilty, I ask myself, am I out of alignment with my values? If yes, I realign with them. If not, I stop the guilt. Love, Jen

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“Mental illness is the result of normal adaptations to unhealthy situations.” JENNIFER NURICK

Mental Illness: Adapting to Unhealthy Situations

August 23, 2022

Knowing that mental illness results from normal adaptations to unhealthy situations became clear to me when I read “The Boy Who Was Raised as a Dog” by Dr Bruce Perry. Trigger warning for this book – it does contain harrowing …

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Examples of triggers

Examples of Triggers

August 23, 2022

Remember that triggers are NORMAL. It is about learning to recognise your personal triggers and work with them. This list is a great starting place for you to think about your triggers. If you’d like to, try the exercise below. …

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Experiencing a trigger and having compassion for yourself in the moment it is occurring, is a huge step forward in your healing process

Understanding Triggers

August 23, 2022

Imagine if your father was a large man and a violent drunk. It might be that whenever you see a man in the street with a similar figure and gait, your body freezes, and you start to panic. A trigger …

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