When you have an anxious adaptation in relationships, conflict signals danger to the nervous system. When this happens, your nervous system fills with energy and prepares you for fight or flight. This is super helpful if a tiger is chasing …
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Blaming Partner
When in conflict, if you have an anxious adaptation, it is common to get into a pattern of feeling alone and hopeless in your relationship. Rather than give up, you might find yourself becoming critical of your partner and pursuing …
Avoidant Experiences
What is Avoidant Attachment? Avoidant attachment refers to a tendency to avoid emotional closeness and dependency on others. Those with this attachment style may have developed self-reliance as a defence mechanism, often suppressing their need for connection. This can make …
Feeling Loved and Important
Feeling loved and Important to your partner is an attachment need. BUT HOW??? Here are some ways to make your partner feel loved and important:
Being Understood and Accepted
Which one has more power for you? To be understood or accepted? To be understood is to have someone say, “You make sense” in one way or another.To be accepted is to belong. Both are food for the heart and …
Feel Like Whatever You Do is Wrong?
I have a FREE resource to help you get awareness. In it you will learn: My gift to you, Love, Jen
Unmasking Attachment Anxiety
Attachment anxiety is when we learn as children that we can’t depend on the adults around us, so we adapt our behaviour to suit the situation we are experiencing in that relationship to stay alive, fed and loved. One adaptation …
International Day of Yoga
The theory is that trauma-informed yoga practice assists traumatised people by helping them re-establish contact with their bodies, connect to their sensory experiences, and increase their emotional awareness. This has absolutely been my experience with yoga. Yoga has helped me …
Understanding Attachment Wounding: Healing Unhelpful Relationship Patterns
As children, our survival depends on staying connected to our caregivers. It’s a simple truth: without them, we cannot thrive. That’s why they say, “We are wired for connection.” However, growing up with caregivers who are not attuned to …
Anxiety or Anxiety Disorder?
You might not know there is a big difference between anxiety and an anxiety disorder. Most of us will experience anxiety on and off, but how do you know when anxiety has become a real problem for you? Anxiety is …