It is possible to work on our abandonment fear. Some powerful tools I have experienced are EMDR, somatic psychotherapy, and inner child work. These are all elements of evidence-based trauma therapy. When we expand the definition of trauma to include …
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Ways to build self trust
Self-trust has helped me a lot when building resilience. Like being in a relationship with anyone, building trust with yourself, especially if you have a history of abandoning yourself, takes time. You have to prove to yourself, and the inner …
8 Signs Reparenting Would be Helpful:
Wherever you are in your #healingjourney, reparenting is part of it. When we have been raised by adults who didn’t know how to regulate their nervous system, who did not have the skills to role model healthy boundaries or conflict …
When Your Mother Uses You For Emotional Support…
Of course, all mothers are in a relationship with their children, and there will be a natural flow of emotional support within any healthy relationship. What I am talking about here is when the amount of emotional support required by …
12 Signs You Have a Mother Wound
Many of us spend years in confusion, anger, and grief about the mother relationship, trying to understand what happened. The relationship with the mother, who is usually the primary caretaker, is the first imprint we receive about how …
Tips to Handle Gaslighting at Work
Gaslighting at work can ruin your confidence and career. I have seen it.The behaviour is easier to manage if other people in the office see what is happening. It is much more difficult when one person is singled out by …
The Cycle Breakers’ Circle
This is the cycle we all go through on any healing journey. We need to discover where we are stuck and what we inherited from our parents and childhood. Then we need to attend to and heal those wounded parts, …
Family Secrets
Did you have to hold a secret for an adult in your family or keep a secret from the rest of your family? Keeping secrets in families, especially across generations can be harmful for the family and the holder of …
Biological and Logical Family
Over and over again, I see people who have had to look outside the BIOLOGICAL family unit for affirmation, acceptance, connection and love. Sometimes this is due to physical distance. When children immigrate as adults, they need to build a …
Relational Trauma Requires Relational Healing
We can learn to self-regulate as adults, but this is only part of the process. The other part is the healing that happens in a two-person system – relationally. Relational trauma requires relational healing. The wounds of childhood trauma are …