As parents, it is easy to become housemates rather than lovers and playmates. It is easy to allow the children to take up all the extra time and space. It is important for parents to carve out time to be …
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Five Tips for Choosing a Therapist
Are you thinking of talking to someone and wondering where on Earth to start? Have you tried a therapist, and it just didn’t flow as you wanted it to? Choosing a therapist is a journey that we need to invest …
The Importance of Safety For Healing
Take a moment to notice what around you creates a feeling of safety in your body. What connection feels safe to you? Who can you connect with that allows your body to exhale, to rest deeply?Where might you find that …
Safe Vs Authentic
What spoken and unspoken rules did you grow up with that determined your acceptability and sense of belonging? Here are a few of mine: As a child, if we follow the family rules, we are accepted and loved, and there …
What to Expect In Your First EMDR Session
Have you heard Prince Harry talking about EMDR and how amazing it is? In this episode, I explore what might happen in your EMDR therapy sessions. Although this will differ with every therapist, my aim is to give you an …
Identifying Emotional Exhaustion
Emotional exhaustion can appear in various ways through your body, mind and spirit. In your BODY, it might show up as: In your MIND, it might show up as: In your SPIRIT, it might show up as: When I’m emotionally …
What a ‘No’ Feels Like In Your Body
A few years ago, I watched my kids as toddlers start to distinguish between the bodily felt sense of ‘I’m hungry, and I’m sleepy’. It made me smile to see my daughter fast asleep with a sandwich literally hanging out …
Grieving Your Childhood
Many people carry a burden of grief related to their childhood experiences. You might mourn your early years if you were burdened with responsibilities beyond your age, faced bullying from a sibling, witnessed frequent violence, endured constant yelling and fighting, …
The Anxious-Avoidant Dynamic – Can it work?
This is one of the main dynamics that brings couples into therapy. It is the Anxious-Avoidant Cycle. So, what exactly is the Anxious-Avoidant Cycle, how does it work, and how do we perpetuate it? We also tackle the big question: …
Gabor Maté Quote
This resonates deeply with Richard Schwatz’s work, in that Internal Family Systems (IFS) finds there are NO BAD PARTS.Gabor Mate nailed it here. The part that reaches for the alcohol or the drugs hopes to find something. Often, it is …