You suspect (or have been told by your partner) that you are dating someone who is anxiously attached. You are growing in love with them and want to be close to them, but it feels difficult. You wonder if there …
Tag: healing journey
The Neurobiological Impact of Trauma
This repository of emotion, felt sensations and memories go on to form what in IFS (Internal Family Systems) are called ‘parts’. Each part is frozen in time and space. So the traumatised 6-year-old will feel like they did when they …
Trauma Symptoms
When we have experienced neglect or abuse in childhood, the child must adapt to survive. The child might survive by leaving their body when the abuse is taking place. Then as an adult, when there is physical discomfort, or someone …
Why did I write “Heal Your Anxious Attachment”?
Because you asked for it. About two years ago, I went through a phase where I was posting a lot about attachment styles. I was asked repeatedly, “Is there a book you can recommend about healing from it?” So, like …
Learning Vedic Meditation
Vedic meditation is a technique dating back thousands of years in India that emphasises effortlessness in meditation, allowing thoughts and accepting what is happening in your body as you meditate. My teacher, Anne, did a beautiful ceremony and gave us …
Triggers Unpacked
“A trigger is when something happens and we have an emotional reaction that seems stronger than the situation calls for. Something has happened that has caused your internal alarm system to go off. This is a moment to be curious …
My New Book; Heal Your Anxious Attachment
Anxious attachment is a healthy adaptation. All behaviour, when viewed through the lens of your history, makes sense. Always. As children, when met with inconsistency in our caregivers are faced with two choices. Either stay close to the carer and …
Episode 23: 7 Tips for Dating For The Anxiously Attached
When you are anxiously attached, the dating phase of a relationship can be painful, triggering and confusing. It is often difficult to know if your gut feelings of anxiety are real and valid, or if it is your anxious attachment …
Conflict in Relationships
FREE Track YOUR negative Cycle. I have a FREE resource to help you get awareness of your negative cycle. This frustrating cycle usually makes you both feel more disconnected than ever. Learning what your negative cycle is so you can …
When Consistency is Boring
I see a lot of people run when met with consistency. Why? When you are used to intimate relationships being chaotic, unstable and unpredictable, you end up living in a constant state of stress (sympathetic activation/fight or flight). This state …