Tag: healing journey

Blocks to Self-Awareness Two things that block INTERNAL self-awareness First - SELF-CRITICISM. When we are internally self-aware but immediately move into self-criticism, it becomes a painful experience that we may not want to repeat. This could sound like: "I’m aware I’m feeling angry about work, but I am taking it out on my partner. I'm a terrible person; I'll always be alone". Self-criticism blocks the self-awareness. The second thing that blocks INTERNAL self-awareness is the FEAR OF FEELING EMOTIONS. When we are internally self-aware and big, scary feelings come up that feel uncontrollable, we might think that it is safer not to look or only look for a second.

Blocks To Self-Awareness

September 9, 2024

True self-awareness takes courage. We have to be ready to look within and find things we don’t like and/or feel unable to change. Sometimes, self-awareness can feel like a punishing party. This is why I am a huge advocate for …

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Why Self-Awareness is Useful

Why Self-Awareness is Useful

September 9, 2024

Research has proven the benefits of self-awareness. It has been linked to performance at work and is one of the strongest predictors of personal and organisational success and satisfaction.⁣ ⁣Dr Tasha Eurich has conducted extensive research into self-awareness. She says …

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Self-awareness

Self-Awareness

September 9, 2024

Self-awareness is awareness of the self rather than the external environment. It is a process of assessing how you align with your internal ideals and values. It is also the ability to know how your actions impact others. ⁣⁠ Self-awareness …

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What is Self-Awareness?

What is Self-Awareness?

September 9, 2024

Dr. Tasha Eurich (2019) in her research, differentiates between internal and external self-awareness. ⁣ Internal self-awareness can be cultivated through:⁣ While gathering external data we have to bear in mind that the other person is seeing you through their own …

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Parts that block listening

Parts That Block Listening

September 9, 2024

As the listener, you must first notice the part of you formulating your response. This part is likely to be a protector in your system. This part is probably trying to protect you in some way. It might be protecting …

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“Vulnerability is not winning or losing; it's having the courage to show up and be seen when we have no control over the outcome. Vulnerability is not weakness; it's our greatest measure of courage.” Brené Brown

Brené Brown Quote

September 9, 2024

We meet vulnerability every time we do something new.  How much vulnerability did you feel today? That’s how courageous you are! Big love,  Jen

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Let’s say that you said you were going to tidy up today, and it gets to the end of the day, and you haven't done it,t and you know that you haven't kept your word and need to apologise. Before you apologise, take a moment to ask the other person how your action or non-action has impacted them. This might sound like, “I know I said I would tidy up today, and I haven't. But before I start explaining why I haven't done it and apologise, I want to hear about how this has impacted you.” They might share that they feel let down and don't want to feel like they are living in a huge mess; it’s stressful.” I might respond with empathy, “Yes, I get that. It makes sense that you would feel let down and don't like everything being a mess. I get it. I would probably feel the same in your situation.” It takes courage to listen to how your actions have impacted someone else, but it makes for a much more complete repair. If we apologise too soon, we are apologising for our assumed impact, not the actual impact we have caused.

Before You Apologise Do This…

September 6, 2024

Before apologising, ask the other person to share the IMPACT it has had on them. Life changing. Love, Jen (Inspired by a lecture given at IFS Level 1 training by Emma Diamond – Australia)

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I hope you believe that you can still make a beautiful life for yourself even if you lost many years of it to grief, or darkness, or a wound that wouldn’t close. rainbow salt

A Beautiful Life

September 6, 2024

Hope lives. Love Jen

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How was repair done in your family?

How Was Repair Done In Your Family?

September 5, 2024

Rupture and repair were not done well in my family. When I look at my grandparents, it’s easy to see why. We tend to repeat what we learn.  As an adult, I had to learn to have difficult conversations and …

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6 signs you might need couple therapy

6 Signs You Might Need Couple Therapy

September 5, 2024

If any of these sound familiar, couple therapy might be the next step to rebuilding or strengthening your bond. Don’t wait for a crisis—reaching out for help is a sign of strength!  P.s. If you would like to do some …

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