Attachment anxiety is when we learn as children that we can’t depend on the adults around us, so we adapt our behaviour to suit the situation we are experiencing in that relationship to stay alive, fed and loved. One adaptation …
Tag: Cycle breaker
Understanding Attachment Wounding: Healing Unhelpful Relationship Patterns
As children, our survival depends on staying connected to our caregivers. It’s a simple truth: without them, we cannot thrive. That’s why they say, “We are wired for connection.” However, growing up with caregivers who are not attuned to …
Anxious Attachment and People Pleasing
When attachment anxiety takes hold, the instinct to people please and prioritize the needs of others over your own can take over. This behavior is understandable because of the overwhelming fear of being abandoned. However, it’s important to recognize the …
Working With Your Critical Inner Voice
Leave a comment if you know where your critical inner voice came from. Here are some examples: The guy you are dating hasn’t called you back. The critical voice says, “Well, of course, he is not that interested. You …
Acting Out
Pause – When you feel yourself about to ‘act out,’ can you pause? Can you hold the tension and discomfort in your body and be curious about what is happening for you? Can you think? I am feeling so much …
What Is Inner Child Work?
Inner Child work is part of many research-based psychotherapeutic models, including Transactional Analysis, internal family systems, EMDR, Gestalt Therapy, schema therapy and narrative therapy. The reason why it is part of so many therapies is that it WORKS. We all …
What Is The Inner Child?
If you feel ready to meet your inner child and start the reparenting work, you’ll love my ‘Meet your Inner Child’ short self-paced course
Mother’s Day Quotes
Which is your favourite? Share the best one and tag a mother you care about (it can be you!). My favourite is the Chinese proverb, but I have two. Let me know in the comments which is your favourite. Love …
Tips for Co-Regulation
Did you experience co-regulation as a child? What impact did that have on you? If you feel safe eto, let me know in the comments. Wherever you are, take care of yourself. Love, Jen
What is Co-Regulation?
It is possible to learn co-regulation as an adult from a therapist, caring friend or partner. I’ll be sharing some tips for co-regulation, so look out for them.