You know that feeling when you desperately want to give something up, but you just can’t? We often feel stuck when different parts of us want different things. One part might want to give something up, while another part clings …
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Self-Betrayal: Why You Learned to Disconnect from Your Needs
When you have grown up in an environment where your needs were not met or ignored, you learned to disconnect from them. As an adult, this has created one of two situations: When your needs as a child were not …
How to Have a Conversation with Someone You Are Worried About
If you’re worried about someone and want to start a conversation, here is a simple pocket guide for how to have that conversation. What NOT to Do If you are considering suicide, or you know someone who is, please reach …
Differences in Relationships: Why Conflict Isn’t a Sign You’re With the Wrong Person
Every relationship will have differences. It is not the differences themselves that determine whether a relationship thrives or struggles; it is how we navigate them. When we approach differences with curiosity instead of defensiveness, we open the door to understanding. …
When You Can’t See How Far You’ve Come
When you’re in the middle of change, it can be hard to see how far you’ve come. The shifts might feel small, but over time they add up. Someone who meets you weekly can often see them more clearly than …
Suicide in Australia: Why We Need to Keep Talking About It
Trigger warning. Over the next few days, I’ll be talking openly about suicide. Looking at the statistics is confronting. If suicide rates are any measure of how we’re doing as a community when it comes to mental health, we have …
Signs of Healing
When I began my healing journey, I was experiencing deep inner conflict. I had immigrated to a new country and had few support people in my new home. Most of my friends and family were literally on the other side …
When To Get Help For Trauma
The typical trauma symptoms will start to fade after about four weeks for some people, and for others, they will continue and even worsen. It is beneficial to have a list of things to look out for regarding trauma. If …
As a Therapist I Often Experience
Many people wonder why on earth I chose to be a therapist. “Why would you want to sit all day and listen to people’s pain and suffering, life is hard enough as it is!” The funny thing is, listening to …
How do we Stop Arguing About the Same Thing?
Have you found yourself in relationship arguing about the same thing over and over with no outcome? If your answer is yes, you are not alone. Research has found that 69% of couples’ areas of disagreement are about UNRESOLVABLE problems. …