Remember that anxious attachment is a strategy you have learnt to maintain closeness with your special person. These fears can all be addressed by building internal and external secure attachment.
Tag: attachment theory
Common Mistakes when Anxiously Attached
Many individuals with anxious attachment mistakenly equate the rollercoaster of intense emotional highs and lows with the depth and intensity of love, perceiving these turbulent experiences as signs of a passionate relationship. This confusion can lead to a blurred line …
The Mindset of Secure Attachment
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You Are Important
As a trauma therapist, I’ve heard numerous stories about the messages people received in childhood that made them feel unimportant. Whether it was a sibling who demanded all of your parents’ time and energy, leaving little for you, or parents …
Earned Secure attachment
What is Earned Secure Attachment? Earned secure attachment is when someone develops secure, healthy relationship patterns in adulthood despite having experienced insecure attachments in their early years. How do you know if you have Earned Secure Attachment? When you have …
Dr Alexandra Quote
When you have been betrayed, you have a natural scar from that experience. Many people would call that experience traumatic. It is traumatic because your person, who is supposed to have your back and be one of your best friends, …
Checking In
Ask each other, ‘How are you really doing? What’s on your mind?’ Listen with empathy, without rushing to solve or judge.” When do you do this as a couple?
Mastermind Course
Spend 10 hours with me and change the way you relate internally FOREVER! ‘Build Secure Attachment Mastermind’ If you want more connection in your intimate relationships and to break out of the repeating cycles of distress, this is for you! …
How To Heal Childhood Trauma and the Impact it Has on You
Ever wondered how to heal from childhood trauma? In this article with she defined I talk about two powerful therapeutic methods. Enjoy and let me know what you think. the article can be found here
Secure Attachment Grows in Small Moments
Every little look, every quiet word, every shared smile between you and your partner is a thread in the tapestry of your connection. It’s the daily, gentle moments that build a secure attachment, not just the grand declarations. In the …