I thought it might be useful to see a list of things you might experience if you are living with gaslighting. This is not meant as a diagnostic tool of any kind, purely information.
How to Recognise Gaslighting
Gaslighting is real – it IS a form of emotional abuse. Here are some things to look out for in intimate relationships. Remember that gaslighting can happen in your family, relationships, and at work. Wherever it is going on, it …
Worry is NOT a Love Language
You might have grown up with a caregiver who is constantly worried, not only about you but about other threats too. I have seen this play out in specific cultural groups. Especially groups that have experienced trauma. Trauma might be …
Gaslighting
The term originated from the British writer Patrick Hamilton’s book and movie called Gas Light, in which the husband Gregory manipulates his loving wife, Paula to the point where she no longer trusts her perception of reality. In one scene, …
How Do I Build Self-Trust?
Self-trust has helped me a lot when building resilience. Like being in a relationship with anyone, building trust with yourself, especially if you have a history of abandoning yourself, takes time. You have to prove to yourself, and the inner …
Connect with your Ancestral Strengths
When we look back at our ancestors, we can often find surprising, hidden strengths and things that connect us to our sense of belonging. Ever since I was little, I have been desperate to see the world, to travel. I …
Post Traumatic GROWTH
Have you had a traumatic experience, which was painful and complex, and at the same time been aware of your inner self growing, or having grown substantially from the experience? If you have, this is referred to as post-traumatic growth. …
Peter Levine Quote
Humans have been working with trauma for eons. We have always been coping with wars, genocides, death, illness, and natural disaster. Overcoming these things builds resilience and grit. It is in our DNA to overcome and survive. Can trauma be …
Regression into Childhood States
Our core childhood needs are: Attachment Freedom to be yourself and to have your emotions and needs validated Appropriate limits so you learn self-control Independence, competence and self-identity Play When triggered by one of these needs not being met, you …
The Cycle Breakers Circle
This is the cycle we all go through on any healing journey. We need to discover where we are stuck and what we inherited from our parents and childhood. Then we need to attend to and heal those wounded parts, …