When attachment anxiety takes hold, the instinct to people please and prioritize the needs of others over your own can take over. This behavior is understandable because of the overwhelming fear of being abandoned. However, it’s important to recognize the …
The Art of Deep Rest
In the last post about deep rest, a few people asked me how to do it. We know we are deeply rested when our nervous system, body and mind feel calm. There is a sense of letting go and of …
Growing Up
I once asked someone I had just met what they imagined my childhood was like. They said they imagined I had grown up in a reasonably wealthy home with stable parents, and gone to university—the usual. I told them that …
IFS and Attachment Theory
Have you ever wondered why you react to certain situations or relationships in a specific way? Are you curious about the intricate workings of your mind and how it shapes your experiences? Today, I want to dive into two fascinating …
What is Internal Family Systems?
We all have parts. As I sit here now, there is part of me that wants to go for a walk in the English countryside and there is part of me that wants to share with you. When we have …
All Parts Are Welcome
Do you know that feeling when part of you wants to stay and part of you wants to leave? Or part of you that loves your parents and feels loyal towards them and another part that is furious about the …
Being An Immigrant
Leave a cooment if you’ve ever experienced immigration. I immigrated to Australia from the UK when I was twenty-five years old. In so many ways, it was an easy transition: the same language, similar food and culture. I had lived …
Working With Your Critical Inner Voice
Leave a comment if you know where your critical inner voice came from. Here are some examples: The guy you are dating hasn’t called you back. The critical voice says, “Well, of course, he is not that interested. You …
9 Signs You Grew Up Chronically Lonely
Chronic loneliness is not a diagnosis. It is a term used to describe loneliness experienced over a long period. This can happen for many different reasons. It might be that you grew up as an only child with a parent …