I see a lot of people run when met with consistency. Why? When you are used to intimate relationships being chaotic, unstable and unpredictable, you end up living in a constant state of stress (sympathetic activation/fight or flight). This state …
Consistency In Relationships
Consistency in relationships is underrated. It is one of the most significant factors that creates real and felt safety in a relationship. We need safety to move into deeper intimacy. Inconsistency might look like: Notice how you respond to inconsistency. …
Slowing Down
Today, I’m intentionally slowing down. One of the best ways to do that is to walk more slowly. I tend to walk with no time to spare, with the top of my body leaning a little forward. I think it …
Heal Your Anxious Attachment: Pre Order Now
The book is finished after a year of writing it. The cover is designed, the typesetting has been done, and I have the final galley (as they say in publishing). So what’s next? Take it to India to receive the …
On Your Side
Of course, there are times to argue, stand your ground and debate, but when something is really important to your partner, sometimes you need to have their back.
What I Learnt From Fasting
Two flights and 22 hours later, I’m back in my spiritual home, India. When I come to India, I come to a large Temple complex where people practise mantra and pooja for about 19 hours daily. Today, I fasted for …
What’s Important to Your Partner
Know what is important to your partner and make it important to you, too.I’m not talking about what kind of food they like, I’m talking about the big things, the things that your partner feels passionate about.If they feel passionate …
Marriage Tips from a Happily Married Couple (18 years) with Two Teenage Children
Which one resonates the most for you, 1-8? Let me know in the comments Love, Jen
Corrective Experiences
Whenever I make a mistake, and my husband responds with kind eyes and a soft, warm voice, he gives me a corrective experience. Let me explain. When I was born, my father was 52 years old. He was old enough …