When you are a secure ‘home base’ for your kids, they always know they can come to you when things get rough. The more kids that have this kind of support, the better.If this is something you would like your …
6 Reasons You’re Attracted to Avoidant People
You’re probably reading this because you are frustrated at yourself for choosing another unavailable partner. Maybe he is married, or he lives in another state or country. Perhaps he is dating you, but he seems to be married to his …
Why Avoidantly Attached People Withdraw
Ever notice how some people just shut down during conflicts? When Avoidantly Attached People feel threatened, they WITHDRAW to feel SAFE. Your nervous system tends to rest more in hyperarousal; it’s like your body’s way of shutting down when overwhelmed. …
8 Signs You Probably Need Therapy
In my early 20s, I moved to a new country with my partner. I was away from my friends and family, and it was a tough time with a lot of challenges. That’s when I made the decision to go …
Ever Find Yourself Agreeing To Keep The Peace
If you find yourself appeasing your partner over and over again you risk growing resentment in the relationship. Instead of agreeing with everything, try these steps: Have a great week, Big hugs, Jen
Overworking to Avoid Emotions
Do you bury yourself in work when things get tough? You OVERWORK when you feel threatened to feel SAFE. Work gives you a sense of accomplishment and predictability, unlike relationships. You feel more confident at work than dealing with intense …
Interview With Body & Soul
I’m a therapist and go to Therapy. Here is why everyone should go.’ By Rachael Martin. This was such an interesting conversation with Rach full article here
The Logic of Overworking: Avoidant Attachment Explained
Do you bury yourself in work when things get tough? It’s common when avoidant attachment patterns are at play. When you feel threatened, you overwork to feel safe. Why? Work gives you a sense of accomplishment and predictability, unlike relationships, …
Children Need Protection
As a trauma therapist, I can’t overemphasise how important protection is for our children. If you know your threat detector is too sensitive or not sensitive enough, check in with someone you trust. Let me know what you think in …
An Intimacy Killer for the Avoiantly Attached
Ever find yourself in a heated argument, and suddenly you switch into ‘logic mode’? When avoidantly attached people feel threatened, they often get all LOGICAL to feel SAFE. When you become logical, you feel your body less. This helps you …