When we are in long distance relationships, the need to attune to one another is even greater. Dr Gottman has a fabulous acronym to remember in all relationships. Often, we have awareness, the first step, but we can struggle with …
Love Language Ideas for Long Distance Couples
Many of you have asked about long-distance relationships, and given the global situation this year, many couples have been separated and actively trying to show love across huge distances. My heart goes out you. I really can’t imagine what it …
What is YOUR Word for 2021
Rather than write a list of intentions for the New Year, I prefer to have a ‘word for the year’ that I can keep referring to. I can refer to it when I am making decisions, and occasionally review the …
A Compassionate Review of YOUR 2020
Socrates in Plato’s Apology was credited with saying “An unexamined life is not worth living”. This is at the core of self-awareness. At this time of the year, I like to do what I call a ‘Compassionate Review’, a kind …
How to Speak your Child’s Love Language
Children need all five love languages. As a parent you will probably find it easiest to give the ones you like to receive. This can leave the others a little lacking. I love words of affirmation and physical touch, so …
What to AVOID when Speaking Your Partner’s Love Language
You might find that the thing your partner complains most about not receiving from you, is one of their main love languages. For example, your partner might frequently complain about you being home late. They might get upset when you …
What is Your Self-Love Language?
When we give love to ourselves abundantly, it is easier to give love in all its forms to others.So, why do we struggle to show love to ourselves? Some of us were taught that it is ‘good’ to put ourselves …
How to Receive Words of Affirmation
When we have grown up receiving few affirmations from the people around us, it can be difficult to receive words of affirmation as an adult. You might find yourself feeling suspicious and wondering if you are being manipulated. This could …
How to Give Your Partner the Gift of Words of Affirmation
Words of affirmation can be incredibly powerful for people who received a lot of criticism as children. For them to hear that they are appreciated and loved for who they are is deeply affirming and healing. It allows them to …
How to Speak Your Partner’s Love Language
There is no better time to discover your partner’s love language than during the holidays. Take time to think about how you FEEL love from your partner. You might find that your partner can tell you a hundred time that …